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  • Being Late | Being Disrespectful

    Being Late | Being Disrespectful

    The biggest disrespect of all is being late. When there is an agreed time for two people to meet, or a group of people to gather, for whatever reasons, arriving late disrespects the other person. Why? For the simple reason that time is precious for everyone that once it has passed, no one can take it back. Losing time from waiting for someone to start a certain activity is like taking a piece of that person and dumping it into nothing.

    Now, we may think that there are various reasons for people to be late. Who we are to judge. Everyone encounters the same problem every now and then. A problem at home that needs to be attended to. Traffic jams that we really can not get out from. Or simply waking up late because of long hours at work we put in the previous night, or partying. But, does this happen everyday? Does this all nuances in life happen every single time in our life?

    Well, we might say that it does. There are people that are so challenged in life that they are having difficulties getting out of these mishaps. As much as they want to, they can’t seem to find a way out and just learned to live with it. They learned to accept it and take it one day at a time. But let’s take that out from the discussion. Let’s just focus on those who are chronic late.

    Habitually Late

    I have encountered two people who are habitually late. These people have no real reason. They just are chronically late. They arrive at least 15 minutes or the most 30 minutes late after the agreed time. There are no reason. Just a simple apology. Sometimes, there is no apology at all. It is what it is.

    So I started observing them. During the time I was checking up on one of them on their whereabouts, the person lied. This person said that he/she is on his/her way. About 5 minutes away from the agreed place to meet. However, that was not true. Multiple instances of being late and observing by asking the person, and understanding where this person is coming from, showed that it was a lie. The 5 minutes away is actually 30 minutes away. Which means, assuming where this person was coming from, had left his or her house 5 minutes before the agreed time to meet. Why even do that knowing it will take him or her about 45 minutes to get to the agreed place? This person did not provide any reason. Just said an empty sorry. That’s it.

    The other person, and thanks to the power of technology, we called on video. Waiting for this person multiple times, we discovered that on the time we agreed to meet, that is the time this person prepares. Takes shower, get dressed. Happened multiple times. Why even do that?

    Time is a valuable thing. That’s a cliche. But it is true. We value our own time. Which means those who are habitually late are also thinking of their own time. What about other people’s time? Have they ever thought of how others value their own time too? If we consider that time is important for us, it should be the same for others. In a nutshell, if someone is not giving importance to what we value, it becomes disrespectful.

    We all have things to do on our own. We all have things happening in our own lives. That is why when we need to collaborate with other people, it is important to agree first with the when. When will it be and how long will it be. This way, we know how much of our precious time will be used so we could allocate that portion of our life and make adjustments on the rest.

    And if other people are late, then we lose that time for ourselves waiting and shortening the time we could have used to accomplish a certain tasks. A quick example of setting up a practice for a performance that is agreed to start, let’s say at 8:00 PM and to end at 10:00 PM. If other people arrived at 8:30 PM, we already lose 30 minutes of that time. Why do people do this?

    Value other people’s time

    If we value our own time, we should be thinking other people’s time too. Considering how important our time is, it must be important to other people too. Now, if we view this as we only value our own time and not others’, it only means that we do not care. It only means that we can be forgiven and other people will understand. Isn’t that being selfish? By thinking only of ourselves and not others?

    I hope that we get to realize this that time is valuable for everyone. No one can not get it back. We have a finite amount of it. We can do whatever we want with it which is why we choose to do what is important to us. And in that note, if we are habitually late, it just means that we are not giving any importance to other people. Whatever the reason may be, it just means that we prioritize something else. And if that is more important than the people we are meeting with, then maybe it is okay. Just keep in mind that that only means we do not value them as much as what we chose to do in that moment.

  • Differences | Understanding Each Other

    Differences | Understanding Each Other

    Our differences make it difficult for us to live harmoniously. The challenges posed by our unique individualities often hinder our ability to coexist peacefully. It is through embracing and understanding these differences that we can strive to create a more harmonious environment. When we acknowledge and appreciate the diversity amongst us, we open the door for meaningful collaboration and mutual respect. In doing so, we can work towards a more inclusive and understanding society, fostering a sense of unity despite our contrasting perspectives.

    We all are different from each other. We all have our own beliefs, biases, inclinations, etc. I’ve seen people fight over small and big things. I’ve fought with many people, lost connection to some, and stressed out most days.

    We all are indeed different from each other, and it’s the diversity of beliefs, biases, inclinations, and experiences that shapes our unique identities. Conflict is an inherent part of human interaction, and it’s not uncommon to witness or experience disputes, whether they’re over trivial matters or significant issues. Personally, I’ve encountered my fair share of disagreements with others, leading to the loss of connections with some individuals and causing stress on most days. It’s a reminder of the complexities of human relationships and the importance of empathy and understanding in navigating our differences.

    Sometimes, you can’t really teach an old dog a new trick.

    But, what I’ve learned is that while we are all different from each other, we can always go beyond that by choice and all starts with respect.

    The value of respect cannot be understated in our interactions with others. It serves as the foundation for building meaningful connections and understanding, regardless of our differences. Embracing the concept of respect allows us to bridge gaps that may exist due to our unique individual traits, beliefs, and backgrounds. Through this choice to respect one another, we create an environment where diversity is celebrated, and where the potential for collaboration and mutual growth is limitless. Therefore, by acknowledging and honoring each other’s differences, we not only enrich our own experiences but also contribute to the greater tapestry of humanity.

    Accept that we are all different. Our reaction to things is always brought by our own beliefs and biases. We cannot force people to see the way we see things.

    Understanding and acknowledging individual differences is a fundamental aspect of human interaction. Our responses and perspectives are deeply influenced by our unique set of beliefs, experiences, and biases. It’s crucial to recognize that attempting to impose our own views on others is not only futile but also disregards the rich tapestry of diverse perspectives that enrich our world. Embracing the multiplicity of viewpoints and appreciating the intricate interplay of beliefs and biases can lead to greater empathy, understanding, and collaboration.

    But, to grow, we need to see how other people see things. How?

    • Ask questions. Be truly interested. Our questions should not sound like we are questioning the integrity of the person but instead to truly understand.

    When engaging in a conversation, it’s important to emphasize the value of asking questions with a genuine intention to understand. By being truly interested and asking thoughtful questions, we can effectively convey our desire to comprehend the perspectives and experiences of others. It’s crucial that the manner in which we pose our questions doesn’t come across as doubting someone’s integrity, but rather reflects a sincere curiosity and openness to gaining insight. This approach fosters an environment of respect and empathy, allowing for meaningful and constructive communication.

    • Stop. Once you understand, stop there. Not everything is a debate. What you want to do is different from what another person wants to do. Don’t keep pushing.

    Understanding the importance of halting our actions when we fully comprehend a situation is crucial. It’s essential to recognize that not every circumstance warrants or benefits from a debate. Each individual’s desires and intentions are unique, and it’s vital to respect these differences. Continuously pushing one’s agenda onto others can be counterproductive and can lead to unnecessary conflict and tension.

    It’s important to emphasize the significance of empathy and understanding in our interactions with others. Taking the time to comprehend diverse perspectives and acknowledging the validity of differing opinions can greatly contribute to harmonious relationships and effective communication. Knowing when to pause and respect differing viewpoints is a valuable aspect of social interactions that can foster mutual respect and understanding.

    • Breath. If you are feeling emotional, breathe deeply and slowly. This will truly calm your nerves and your mind. Approach things objectively.

    When faced with intense emotions, taking a moment to focus on your breath can be incredibly beneficial. By engaging in deep, slow breaths, you allow your body and mind to find a sense of calm and clarity. This simple act can have a profound impact on your well-being, helping to regulate your emotions and bring a sense of balance to your inner world. Moreover, by approaching situations with objectivity, you can gain a clearer perspective, enabling you to make decisions and navigate challenges more effectively. Embracing this holistic approach can lead to a more harmonious and centered way of living.

    • Speak. Say what you want to say in a calm manner. No one is out to get you.

    Speak. Say what you want to say in a calm manner. No one is out to get you.

    It’s important to express your thoughts and feelings in a composed and collected manner. By doing so, you can ensure that your message is effectively communicated without unnecessary tension or conflict. Remember that everyone has their own perspectives and motivations, and approaching communication with a sense of understanding and openness can lead to more productive interactions.

    Understanding diverse perspectives is pivotal for personal and collective development. When we open ourselves to the viewpoints of others, we enrich our understanding of the world and broaden our horizons. By seeking out different outlooks, we can cultivate empathy, deepen our knowledge, and foster a more inclusive and harmonious society. Embracing the diversity of human experience enables us to transcend barriers and work towards a more interconnected and compassionate global community.

    Let’s go beyond ourselves. We are just a very tiny speck in the vast of multiverses (MCU fan!).

    We are just a blink of an eye in time.

  • Other people’s time

    Other people’s time

    Other people’s time is something we do not think about. We only think about our own time.

    Have you had those times in your life when people keep calling you to ask you to do something that made you feel your time is not being respected?

    I am not talking about people vying for your attention. I am not talking about people depending on you because they know you can do the work. I am not talking about the feeling that you are valued and that is why people keep reaching out to you for help.

    This is not about that.

    What I want to talk about is when people know you are doing something, may it be completing your work or talking to someone or having a break, people still will contact you and say that what they need is urgent. That you need to drop whatever you are doing and attend to their needs.

    And this is not about an urgent ask that happens one time. Sure that is manageable. Sure that can be attended to. Sure you can drop whatever you are doing now and attend to your concern.

    This is not it.

    This is about being contacted to do whatever they ask you to do because they consider their asks is more important than whatever you are doing at the moment. That your work is less important and their needs trample whatever you may have going.

    The issue of being contacted to do whatever they ask you to do because they consider their asks is more important than whatever you are doing at the moment is quite common in various professional and personal settings. It can be frustrating and challenging when others impose their needs and priorities over your own. It’s important to establish boundaries and communicate effectively in such situations. Your work and time are valuable, and it’s essential to assert your priorities and commitments. Finding a balance between accommodating others’ requests and maintaining focus on your tasks is crucial. If this pattern persists, consider discussing the impact with the individuals involved to reach a mutual understanding and establish respectful communication.

    We all live in a fast-paced world. The constant changes. The movements. The needs. All are moving fast and people forget how it impacts the lives of other people. That we get so hung up in our own little world that we assume that others are not doing anything so, if we ask for something, we except it to be given to us immediately.

    The world we live in today is undeniably fast-paced. With constant changes, rapid movements, and ever-increasing demands, it’s easy to get caught up in our own little worlds. We often overlook how our actions and expectations can impact the lives of others. This can lead to a mindset where we assume that others are not as occupied as we are, thus expecting immediate responses to our requests. It’s important to take a step back and consider the broader picture, acknowledging that everyone is navigating their own set of responsibilities and challenges. By fostering a greater understanding of each other’s realities, we can cultivate a more patient and empathetic approach to interactions in this dynamic world.

    Why do we even do this?

    Because we are all selfish at some point. By trying to be conscious of how we please other people, especially our bosses, we tend to forget to understand that other people have their own things to do. We even fail to ask if the person can manage to deliver it at that moment or at a specified time. We fail to ask if they are engaged with something and just demand that our needs be met right there and then.

    It’s important to recognize that the behavior of being overly focused on our own needs and expectations, without considering the circumstances or needs of others, can have negative consequences on our relationships and the overall dynamics within a team or organization. When we prioritize our own desires without regard for the capacity or availability of others, it can lead to strained interactions and unmet expectations. Therefore, fostering a more considerate and empathetic approach towards our colleagues and acquaintances is pivotal in nurturing healthy and productive relationships. By pausing to consider the perspectives and commitments of others, we can create a more harmonious environment where everyone feels valued and respected.

    And when it is your turn to ask, you get a seen zone. How’s that for caring?

    For all of us, take a pause. Look around you. Understand what others are going through. Talk to them. Talk on a personal level and not just because you need to ask something. Build real relationships. Focus on doing something that could last a lifetime so that you can say that you have done what is right for you and other people when you take in that last breath of yours.

    In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it’s easy to get caught up in our own concerns and overlook the struggles and experiences of those around us. Taking a moment to truly observe and comprehend the situations of others can be transformative. Engaging in genuine, heartfelt conversations, not driven by agendas or self-interest, can foster deep and meaningful connections. These connections can transcend fleeting moments and have a lasting, positive impact, enriching not only our lives but also the lives of those we interact with. Focusing on actions that contribute to the well-being of others can create a sense of fulfillment and purpose that extends far beyond our immediate circumstances. It’s truly a profound reflection on the significance of our actions and relationships, reminding us to invest in experiences and connections that endure and hold meaning, even as we contemplate the culmination of our lives.

    When faced with adversity, our true nature and strength emerge. How we respond to challenging circumstances speaks volumes about our integrity and resilience. In times of hardship, our actions carry more weight than mere words. It is easy to make promises and speak of good intentions, but when the going gets tough, our responses define who we are at our core. It is in these moments that our character and maturity shine through, shaping the way we are perceived by others and, more importantly, how we perceive ourselves. Therefore, let us remember that what truly matters is not what is said before, but the choices and actions we make when faced with difficulty.

    A final note. Action speaks louder than words. True. In addition, the action you take during a bad situation defines your character and maturity. Whatever was said before that, it doesn’t matter anymore.