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  • Being Late | Being Disrespectful

    Being Late | Being Disrespectful

    The biggest disrespect of all is being late. When there is an agreed time for two people to meet, or a group of people to gather, for whatever reasons, arriving late disrespects the other person. Why? For the simple reason that time is precious for everyone that once it has passed, no one can take it back. Losing time from waiting for someone to start a certain activity is like taking a piece of that person and dumping it into nothing.

    Now, we may think that there are various reasons for people to be late. Who we are to judge. Everyone encounters the same problem every now and then. A problem at home that needs to be attended to. Traffic jams that we really can not get out from. Or simply waking up late because of long hours at work we put in the previous night, or partying. But, does this happen everyday? Does this all nuances in life happen every single time in our life?

    Well, we might say that it does. There are people that are so challenged in life that they are having difficulties getting out of these mishaps. As much as they want to, they can’t seem to find a way out and just learned to live with it. They learned to accept it and take it one day at a time. But let’s take that out from the discussion. Let’s just focus on those who are chronic late.

    Habitually Late

    I have encountered two people who are habitually late. These people have no real reason. They just are chronically late. They arrive at least 15 minutes or the most 30 minutes late after the agreed time. There are no reason. Just a simple apology. Sometimes, there is no apology at all. It is what it is.

    So I started observing them. During the time I was checking up on one of them on their whereabouts, the person lied. This person said that he/she is on his/her way. About 5 minutes away from the agreed place to meet. However, that was not true. Multiple instances of being late and observing by asking the person, and understanding where this person is coming from, showed that it was a lie. The 5 minutes away is actually 30 minutes away. Which means, assuming where this person was coming from, had left his or her house 5 minutes before the agreed time to meet. Why even do that knowing it will take him or her about 45 minutes to get to the agreed place? This person did not provide any reason. Just said an empty sorry. That’s it.

    The other person, and thanks to the power of technology, we called on video. Waiting for this person multiple times, we discovered that on the time we agreed to meet, that is the time this person prepares. Takes shower, get dressed. Happened multiple times. Why even do that?

    Time is a valuable thing. That’s a cliche. But it is true. We value our own time. Which means those who are habitually late are also thinking of their own time. What about other people’s time? Have they ever thought of how others value their own time too? If we consider that time is important for us, it should be the same for others. In a nutshell, if someone is not giving importance to what we value, it becomes disrespectful.

    We all have things to do on our own. We all have things happening in our own lives. That is why when we need to collaborate with other people, it is important to agree first with the when. When will it be and how long will it be. This way, we know how much of our precious time will be used so we could allocate that portion of our life and make adjustments on the rest.

    And if other people are late, then we lose that time for ourselves waiting and shortening the time we could have used to accomplish a certain tasks. A quick example of setting up a practice for a performance that is agreed to start, let’s say at 8:00 PM and to end at 10:00 PM. If other people arrived at 8:30 PM, we already lose 30 minutes of that time. Why do people do this?

    Value other people’s time

    If we value our own time, we should be thinking other people’s time too. Considering how important our time is, it must be important to other people too. Now, if we view this as we only value our own time and not others’, it only means that we do not care. It only means that we can be forgiven and other people will understand. Isn’t that being selfish? By thinking only of ourselves and not others?

    I hope that we get to realize this that time is valuable for everyone. No one can not get it back. We have a finite amount of it. We can do whatever we want with it which is why we choose to do what is important to us. And in that note, if we are habitually late, it just means that we are not giving any importance to other people. Whatever the reason may be, it just means that we prioritize something else. And if that is more important than the people we are meeting with, then maybe it is okay. Just keep in mind that that only means we do not value them as much as what we chose to do in that moment.

  • Time | How do we use it?

    Time | How do we use it?

    Time is something we can’t get back. Once it is past, we can never go back. We all have a false sense of time that we think we have an infinite amount of it which is the reason why we put things off to later, tomorrow, next week, or as far in the future as we can.

    However, we don’t have so much of it. We are not going to live forever. At some point, we will die or, not even considering the extreme of it, we will not be strong enough to do things as our bodies have grown old and too weak to do the things we should have done. Someone I know who knows the value of it wrote a piece called A Dozen Years.

    You may delay but time will not. A quote from Benjamin Franklin

    I’ve seen a lot of people doing things in the nick of time. Struggling to complete a task because of deadlines just because they did not do it before when they had enough time to do it. Why we procrastinate is another topic for another time.

    I’ve been a victim of this thinking and had thought I was doing well cramming and doing my tasks close to the deadline. While we may think that some people are able to do it, in my experience, that rarely happens. The quality of work deteriorates. Mistakes are more common when rushing into finishing tasks. Repeating the work is much more common when cramming.

    Use your time wisely

    Use your time wisely. This saying is so prevalent but what does it really mean? To me, it is all about doing what you must do at any given time. It does not mean being productive all the time as we all need to take breaks and leisure time. For me, it just simply means to schedule the things we need to do and adhere to it by doing the task on the scheduled time. That’s using time wisely.

    Forget the feeling you have now about time that it seems the present is forever. It will soon end and when that happens, will you ever be able to ask yourself that you’ve used your time wisely? That you’ve done what you’ve wanted to do? That you had lived a very productive, creative life and served others using your time?

    Your time is finite. Don’t waste it.

    The Value of Time

    Time is such a precious and mysterious concept. It flows like a river, never stopping or turning back, carrying us along with it. We often take it for granted, assuming that there will always be more of it in the future. The truth, however, is that time is finite—each passing second is one we will never get back.

    With this finite nature in mind, it is crucial to carefully consider how we spend our time. Procrastination and delay only lead to regret as we watch opportunities slip through our fingers. Each passing moment is an opportunity to create, to learn, to connect with others, and to experience the world around us. It’s essential to make the most of each moment, cherishing the present rather than putting off till tomorrow what can be done today.

    The piece “A Dozen Years” serves as a poignant reminder of the value of time. It invites us to reflect on our own lives and the choices we make with the time we have. It urges us to seize the present, to live intentionally, and to appreciate every fleeting moment. By embracing this perspective, we can strive to make the most of our time, honoring its finite nature and living with purpose and mindfulness.

    The Perils of Procrastination

    I’ve witnessed countless individuals racing against deadlines, attempting to complete tasks at the last minute. Procrastination, the art of postponing essential work, is a common affliction. But why do we fall into this trap?

    I, too, have been ensnared by this mindset. Initially, I believed I thrived under pressure, cramming tasks just before their due dates. However, reality proved otherwise. Quality suffered, mistakes multiplied, and the need for revisions increased. Rushing rarely leads to excellence.

    When we delve into the reasons behind procrastination, we often find a complex interplay of factors. Fear of failure, perfectionism, or even overwhelming workload can contribute to delaying important tasks. Understanding the underlying causes can be the first step towards overcoming this detrimental behavior. It’s vital to recognize the impact of procrastination not only on the quality of work but also on our mental well-being.

    As we reflect on our own experiences, we may uncover patterns of behavior that perpetuate procrastination. This self-awareness can pave the way for meaningful change. By fostering a proactive approach and breaking tasks into manageable steps, we can mitigate the temptations of procrastination and strive toward a more balanced and productive workflow. Remember, embracing a consistent and structured work ethic not only enhances the quality of our output but also nurtures a sense of fulfillment and accomplishment.

    Using Time Wisely

    The adage “use your time wisely” resonates deeply within us all. Its resonance lies in the fundamental truth that our time on this earth is limited, and how we choose to allocate and utilize it shapes our lives and impacts those around us. But what does it truly entail, this wise use of time? It doesn’t imply perpetual productivity; we all need breaks and leisure. Instead, it means scheduling tasks and adhering to those schedules, finding a balance between work, personal growth, and relaxation. It involves recognizing the value of each moment and intentionally allocating time to activities that nurture our souls and fulfill our obligations.

    Consider the present moment. It feels eternal, but it isn’t. Eventually, it will slip away, becoming part of the tapestry of memories that shape our lives. When that happens, will you look back and affirm that you used your time wisely? Reflect on whether you pursued your passions, embraced creativity, and served others. These reflections matter as they guide our actions and attitudes, fostering a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

    Remember: your time is finite. Cherish it, invest it, and don’t squander it. Each day offers opportunities to shape your story and impact the world around you. Embrace the journey and make each moment count.