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  • Why Your Work Doesn’t Matter (And How to Change That)

    Why Your Work Doesn’t Matter (And How to Change That)

    Many people feel that their work doesn’t matter and that they have no control over the outcomes of their actions. This is because they have a low locus of control, which is the belief that external factors, such as luck, fate, or other people, determine their success and failure. However, having a low locus of control can lead to low commitment, motivation, satisfaction, and performance at work. In this blog, you will learn how to increase your locus of control and find more meaning and motivation in your work. You will discover four tips and strategies that can help you: set SMART goals, seek feedback, embrace challenges, and celebrate success. By applying these tips and strategies, you can change your belief that your work doesn’t matter and that you can make an impact with your actions.

    Why Your Work Doesn’t Matter (And How to Change That)

    Do you ever feel like your work is meaningless? Like you are just going through the motions, without any sense of purpose or impact? If so, you are not alone. Many people struggle with finding meaning and motivation in their work, especially in today’s fast-paced and competitive world.

    But why is that? Why do we often lack the drive to do something, even when we are not told, at work? The answer lies in our belief that our actions matter and they will make an impact. This belief is also known as the locus of control, which refers to the extent to which we believe we have control over the outcomes of our actions.

    When we have a high locus of control, we believe that we are responsible for our own success and failure, and that we can influence the events that affect us. When we have a low locus of control, we believe that external factors, such as luck, fate, or other people, determine our outcomes, and that we have little or no control over them.

    The locus of control affects our level of commitment at work, as well as our satisfaction, performance, and well-being. When we have a high locus of control, we tend to be more committed, motivated, productive, and happy at work, because we believe that our work matters and it will make a difference. When we have a low locus of control, we tend to be less committed, motivated, productive, and happy at work, because we believe that our work doesn’t matter and it won’t make a difference.

    So how can we increase our locus of control and find more meaning and motivation in our work?

    Here are some tips and strategies that can help you change when work seems to doesn’t matter:

    1. Set SMART Goals

    One of the best ways to increase your locus of control is to set SMART goals, which are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. SMART goals help you clarify what you want to achieve, how you will achieve it, and when you will achieve it. They also help you track your progress and celebrate your achievements.

    For example, instead of saying “I want to improve my sales skills”, you can say “I want to increase my sales conversion rate by 10% in the next three months by attending a sales training course, practicing with a mentor, and applying the feedback I receive”. This is a SMART goal because it is specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound.

    By setting SMART goals, you can increase your sense of control over your work, as well as your confidence, motivation, and satisfaction.

    2. Seek Feedback

    Another way to increase your locus of control is to seek feedback from others, such as your manager, colleagues, clients, or mentors. Feedback can help you improve your skills, knowledge, and performance, as well as your understanding of the expectations and standards of your work. Feedback can also help you identify your strengths and areas for improvement, as well as the impact and value of your work.

    For example, you can ask your manager for a performance review, where you can discuss your achievements, challenges, and goals. You can also ask your colleagues for their opinions and suggestions on how you can improve your teamwork, communication, or collaboration. You can also ask your clients for their feedback on your products, services, or customer service.

    By seeking feedback, you can increase your sense of control over your work, as well as your learning, growth, and recognition.

    3. Embrace Challenges

    A third way to increase your locus of control is to embrace challenges, rather than avoid them. Challenges can help you stretch your abilities, test your limits, and learn new things. Challenges can also help you overcome your fears, doubts, and insecurities, and prove to yourself and others what you are capable of.

    For example, you can take on a new project, task, or role that is outside your comfort zone, but within your reach. You can also volunteer for a leadership, mentoring, or coaching opportunity that can help you develop your skills and influence. You can also participate in a competition, contest, or award that can showcase your talents and achievements.

    By embracing challenges, you can increase your sense of control over your work, as well as your resilience, creativity, and innovation.

    4. Celebrate Success

    A fourth way to increase your locus of control is to celebrate your success, both big and small. Celebrating your success can help you acknowledge your efforts, achievements, and contributions, as well as the results and outcomes of your work. Celebrating your success can also help you appreciate your strengths, skills, and talents, as well as the opportunities and resources that you have.

    For example, you can reward yourself with a treat, a gift, or a break after completing a difficult or important task or project. You can also share your success with others, such as your manager, colleagues, friends, or family, and receive their praise, recognition, or support. You can also document your success, such as by writing a journal, creating a portfolio, or updating your resume.

    By celebrating your success, you can increase your sense of control over your work, as well as your gratitude, happiness, and pride.

    Conclusion

    Understanding why some people feel that their work doesn’t matter and that they have no control over the outcomes of their actions can help them change their belief and increase their locus of control. The locus of control is the extent to which people believe they can influence the events that affect them. Having a high locus of control can lead to more commitment, motivation, satisfaction, and performance at work. To increase the locus of control, four tips and strategies are suggested: setting SMART goals, seeking feedback, embracing challenges, and celebrating success. These tips and strategies can help people find more meaning and motivation in their work and make a positive impact with their actions. 

    To increase your locus of control, you can:

    • Set SMART goals
    • Seek feedback
    • Embrace challenges
    • Celebrate success

    These tips and strategies can help you find more meaning and purpose in your work, and make a positive difference in your career and life.

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  • First job, first salary

    First job, first salary

    Looking at my nephew working in Starbucks as his first job brings back memories of when I started working in Jollibee as a dining crew. It was hard. Cleaning tables, wiping floors, and attending to customers’ needs, not to mention irate customers.

    Watching my nephew navigate the world of work for the first time with his new job at Starbucks brings a wave of nostalgia crashing over me. It transports me back to my own fledgling days in the workforce, a time when my uniform wasn’t the crisp green apron he sported, but the familiar red and yellow stripes of a Jollibee dining crew member.

    Those were demanding days, filled with challenges that tested my grit and work ethic. Every day was a whirlwind of activity. There were tables to be cleared with lightning speed, ensuring a steady flow for the hungry customers. Floors, inevitably stained with the remnants of countless Chickenjoy meals, required constant attention. And on top of that, there were the customers themselves, a diverse range of personalities with varying levels of patience and needs. Sometimes, frustration boiled over, and I’d find myself dealing with irate customers whose orders were delayed or meals weren’t quite right. It was a crash course in customer service, resilience, and the importance of a smile, even on days when your feet ached and the fryer seemed to be on a personal mission to soak you in oil.

    Took the job because everyone, almost everyone, I knew in college was working. With the potential of earning for myself, I decided to try it. And luckily, I was accepted. Had it for about five months before I quit because it was tiring and made me sleep in class.

    We all started working because we wanted to earn money. Because we want to be able to buy things for ourselves and for many of us, to provide for our families and loved ones.

    And as we progress in our careers, move to different companies, and meet a lot of different people, we forget what was our initial purpose. Under the pressure at work, the politics, and the dramas, we slipped in forgetting why are we working.

    We all begin our working lives driven by a fundamental need: financial security. It’s the fuel that propels us forward, the desire to afford basic necessities like food and shelter. But this initial motivation goes beyond just ourselves. For many, it transforms into a desire to provide a comfortable life for our families, to be the ones who put food on the table and clothes on their backs. It’s about building a future where loved ones can pursue their dreams and ambitions, a future secured by our hard work and dedication.

    However, as careers unfold, a subtle shift can occur. We climb the professional ladder, navigate the complexities of new companies, and forge relationships with a diverse range of colleagues. This dynamic environment, while offering growth and learning opportunities, can also introduce unexpected challenges. The pressures to perform, meet deadlines, and navigate office politics can become all-consuming. We get caught up in the daily grind, the emails, meetings, and performance reviews. Slowly, but surely, the initial spark that ignited our work ethic – the desire to provide and build a secure future – can begin to fade.

    This forgetting isn’t always a conscious choice. The relentless demands of the job can create a tunnel vision effect, narrowing our focus to the immediate tasks at hand. Deadlines loom large, and the pressure to succeed becomes overwhelming. We may lose sight of the bigger picture, the very reason we embarked on this professional journey in the first place. We become cogs in the machine, defined by our titles and productivity metrics rather than the dreams and aspirations that fueled our initial motivation.

    This disconnect can have a significant impact on our overall well-being. When work becomes solely about achieving external goals – promotions, bonuses, or simply surviving the next performance review – it can lead to feelings of emptiness and dissatisfaction. The spark of joy, the sense of purpose derived from contributing and providing, can be extinguished. We may find ourselves questioning the meaning behind the long hours, the sacrifices made, and the energy expended.

    Regaining that sense of purpose requires a conscious effort. It means taking a step back, reflecting on our core values, and reconnecting with the initial reasons we chose our career paths. Perhaps it was the desire to use our skills to make a positive impact, the intellectual challenge of a specific field, or the sense of accomplishment that comes with completing a complex project. Reconnecting with these intrinsic motivators can reignite our passion and fuel our dedication.

    Remembering why we work allows us to approach our jobs with a renewed perspective. We can leverage our skills and experience not just to climb the corporate ladder, but to make a meaningful contribution. It allows us to find satisfaction in the process, not just the outcome. After all, true fulfillment comes not just from the paycheck, but from the sense that our work contributes to something larger than ourselves, whether it’s supporting our families, building a better product, or simply making a positive difference in the world.

    Our careers begin fueled by a primal desire: security. We chase the ability to afford necessities – a roof overhead, and food on the table. But this drive quickly expands beyond ourselves. It becomes about providing for loved ones, becoming the pillar that ensures their comfort. We dream of building a future where they can chase their passions, a future safeguarded by our efforts.

    However, as our careers progress, a subtle shift occurs. We navigate new companies, conquer professional hurdles, and build diverse networks. This dynamic world, while enriching, presents unforeseen challenges. Performance pressures, looming deadlines, and office politics can become all-consuming. We get caught in the daily whirlwind, the constant emails, meetings, and evaluations. Slowly, the reason we embarked on this journey – to provide and build a secure future – can fade into the background.

    This isn’t always intentional. The relentless demands create a tunnel vision, narrowing our focus to the immediate tasks. Deadlines become all-encompassing, and the pressure to succeed suffocates the bigger picture. We lose sight of the very foundation of our work ethic – the desire to empower ourselves and those we love.

    It is all about the money. It is all about earning. It is all about providing. It is all about being able.

    Underneath everything, let us not forget that.

  • Challenging enough and not too easy

    Challenging enough and not too easy

    Challenging enough and something that is not too easy is something that Mikhail mentioned in his book that would result in happiness. This is another learning I got from reading Mikhail’s book entitled Flow. He said that there are 8 components to enjoy what we do. I’ll talk about one that is being challenged enough that we do not get bored.

    We enjoy what we are doing if we are challenged enough and it is not too easy. When we exert enough effort to complete a task a little beyond our existing limit, we enjoy what we do. However, if the task is too difficult for us to do, we get stressed out that we eventually feel hate towards what we are doing, or more, to the people and environment around us.

    The concept of challenge and enjoyment intertwines in a delicate balance. Finding the sweet spot between a manageable challenge and an overwhelming obstacle is key to cultivating a sense of fulfillment in our endeavors. It’s a fine line between being engaged and feeling disheartened, and often, this balance can vary for each individual and within different contexts.

    When a challenge aligns closely with our current abilities, it can spark a sense of flow, where our focus is heightened, and we feel a deep sense of enjoyment and immersion in the task at hand. This state of being “in the zone” provides both intrinsic motivation and a fulfilling experience.

    On the other hand, when a task exceeds our current capacities by a large margin, it can lead to feelings of frustration, stress, and ultimately, aversion. The initial spark of challenge transforms into a daunting mountain to climb, leading to a sense of helplessness and negativity towards the activity. This shift can not only impact our relationship with the task itself but also affect our interactions with those around us and the environment in which we operate.

    Understanding our individual thresholds for a challenge and being mindful of the interplay between effort and enjoyment can help us navigate the complexities of engagement and fulfillment in our pursuits. It’s a journey of self-discovery and calibration, where we strive to find that optimal level of challenge that keeps us energized and motivated, leading to a more enriching experience in our endeavors.

    At the other end of the spectrum, if the task is too easy, we get bored. Extremely, if we are doing nothing for a long period of time, we feel depressed and sad. If our work is too easy for us, we may say that we are okay however, that does not last for long and eventually, we get tired of what we are doing and look for something else.

    When tasks are too simplistic, they fail to engage our minds and provide the stimulation we need to feel fulfilled. The absence of challenge can lead to a sense of monotony and dissatisfaction, ultimately resulting in disinterest in the work we are doing. This phenomenon is often described as “treadmill effect,” where we feel like we are doing the same thing over and over again without progress or excitement. As a result, we seek new challenges and opportunities that can reignite our passion and motivation.

    For me, what I had gone through, I can relate to what Mikhail is saying. I was a fast-food service crew in 1999 and looking back, that was a good use of my time. I was working and studying in college then. It was tiring yet, thinking about it, it was not boring, and at the same time, there was enough strain on my body and mind to do the work. I can not remember a day back then when I got bored. I think I enjoyed it.

    The next job I had was during my on-the-job training when I have to call prospective clients to sell them computers. I had a list given to me by my supervisor and all I had to do is make calls and if the client says yes, I’ll pass it on to someone who will close the sale. That was so boring and I was so looking forward for noon to hit so I could end my shift and go to school. That I did not enjoy.

    Most of us are in our jobs right now because we need the money. That is the very reason. And every day, we imagine doing the stuff we really want but can not because we need the money. So we stick it up and continue our day only to come home with a feeling of defeat, tiredness, and a sense of sadness. The effect is we buy things we do not need, we drink more than our bodies can handle and we lash out at other people.

    We find ourselves caught in a cycle of longing for a life that feels out of reach. It’s a deeply frustrating experience, and it can take a toll on our mental and emotional well-being. The weight of financial pressures can sometimes feel like an insurmountable burden, leaving us feeling trapped in a life that doesn’t align with our true desires.

    Moreover, the impact of this internal struggle often spills over into our external world, leading to impulsive actions and negative behaviors. In an attempt to fill the void created by unfulfilled aspirations, we may seek solace in material possessions or temporary escapes such as excessive drinking. These actions, while momentarily numbing, only serve to perpetuate the cycle of dissatisfaction and inner turmoil.

    Recognizing and acknowledging these emotions is an important first step toward finding a way to break free from this cycle. It’s crucial to seek avenues for fulfillment and explore ways to gradually align our daily lives with our passions and aspirations. While the process may pose its challenges, taking proactive steps toward creating a more purposeful and satisfying life can lead to a sense of empowerment and renewed optimism.

    My key takeaway from this part of the book is if the work we are doing is too difficult for us or even bores us, then it is time to look for something else. Try different work. Maybe that will make us feel something. Maybe it would take us into a state where we are so engaged that we lose the sense of time. And maybe, we’ll enjoy it more than anything else and eventually, find happiness in ourselves.

  • Money can buy happiness

    Money can buy happiness

    Money can buy happiness. There is truth to this, to some extent. We always read quotes, posts, blogs, or articles that say money can not buy happiness. That by this message, it is not important. That what makes us happy is the love that we have around us. The love we give to other people. As long as we have them, we are happy.

    When considering the relationship between money and happiness, it’s important to acknowledge that while financial stability and the ability to fulfill one’s needs can contribute to a sense of well-being and contentment, true happiness often stems from meaningful connections, experiences, and personal fulfillment. The love and support of those around us, the positive impact we have on others, and the pursuit of our passions can bring immense joy and fulfillment that transcends material wealth. This does not diminish the significance of financial security but rather emphasizes the multifaceted nature of happiness and the various elements that contribute to it.

    Though, at the same time, there seem to be posts circulating around that money do buy happiness. That if we do not have it, we would not be able to enjoy life and in effect, we will not enjoy spending time with people around us. Without it, we do not have anything. Without anything, there is no happiness.

    It’s worth noting that while money can facilitate access to certain experiences and resources that enhance our quality of life, it is not a guarantee of happiness. As individuals, we are driven by complex emotional, social, and psychological factors that shape our perceptions of happiness and fulfillment. Therefore, while financial stability is important, it is equally vital to cultivate and cherish the meaningful relationships and experiences that truly enrich our lives and contribute to our overall happiness.

    And yes, I agree with this. I agree that we need money to be able to do things. To buy things that will help us achieve and do what we want to do. To experience things with our loved ones. To be able to create something for someone. To be able to do what we want to do and achieve great things. With money, we can be happy.

    It could bring happiness depending on how we use it. If we take it into the context that we need money to buy things just for the purpose of buying them, becoming affluent, to show off, to experience pleasure, without any purpose of creating and helping, that is when we can say money can not buy happiness as owning material things does not really make us happy. It is when we are able to create and help that we experience joy and have a sense of fulfillment.

    The role of money in our pursuit of happiness is indeed complex and multifaceted. While it is true that having financial resources can provide us with comfort, security, and opportunities, the way in which we choose to utilize and perceive money ultimately determines its impact on our well-being. If we approach money solely as a means to acquire material possessions, attain status, or seek fleeting pleasures, it may lead to a shallow and transient sense of fulfillment. However, when we shift our mindset towards using our resources to create meaningful experiences, support others, and contribute to the greater good, we can discover a deeper, more lasting form of happiness.

    In this light, true happiness may not stem from the mere accumulation of wealth or possessions, but rather from the meaningful ways in which we engage with and direct our financial resources. Whether it involves supporting causes we believe in, fostering connections with others, or pursuing passions that bring fulfillment, the conscious and purposeful use of money has the potential to enrich our lives and those of others. Therefore, the true measure of wealth may not solely reside in what we possess, but in the positive impact we can create through our actions and choices.

    When we have money and we use it to experience pleasure, it does not help us grow. Buying nice things, going on that expensive vacation, or showing off richness through parties, for a moment, we may feel good and nice however, after that, we feel empty. We go back feeling low or feeling sad.

    If we use money to create something for ourselves and for others, it will have a different effect on us. Creating something will require us to deal with complexities, challenges, absurdities, etc. And during those moments we are dealing with it, we sometimes feel defeated and find it hard to go on. But, once we complete the task, we feel a different sensation. Yes. We enjoyed it. We feel happy. We feel successful. We feel fulfilled.

    The process of creation can be both daunting and rewarding. When we invest our time, effort, and resources into creating something, we embark on a journey filled with uncertainties and obstacles. This journey tests our patience, resilience, and problem-solving abilities. There are moments when we may question our decisions and abilities, feeling overwhelmed by the magnitude of the task at hand. However, as we persist and overcome each challenge, we experience a profound sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.

    The value of the outcome extends beyond the tangible result itself. The act of creation shapes our character, enriches our experiences, and nourishes our creativity. It fosters a sense of purpose and cultivates resilience in the face of adversity. Moreover, when our creations benefit others, the intrinsic rewards are magnified. The knowledge that our efforts have positively impacted others fills us with a profound sense of fulfillment and purpose. It reinforces the interconnectedness of our actions and the potential for positive change.

    In essence, the process of creation is a transformative journey that not only yields tangible results but also shapes our mindset and enriches our lives. It teaches us valuable lessons, ignites our passion, and infuses our existence with meaning. Whether we create for ourselves or for the benefit of others, the act of creation has the power to evoke a profound and lasting effect on our personal growth and fulfillment.

    So, yes. Money can buy happiness. That happiness is not about a pleasant life, of leisure and pleasure. That is not it. It is about enjoyment and fulfillment. Enjoyment when we are challenged and grow as a result. Fulfilled when we are able to create something that can help others. Summing all that, we experience happiness. And money is a tool for us to achieve that.

  • Managing consciousness for optimal experience

    Managing consciousness for optimal experience

    Controlling consciousness to be happy. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi said in his book Flow that within the history of man, efforts have been made to always gain the freedom to gain happiness. Controlling consciousness is easier said than done.

    Intentions are the why we do things. It is different for each and every one. It is our reason for doing things and makes us immersed in what we do. While consciousness helps us to be aware of external stimuli and react to them, intentions give us the reason.

    The concept of intentions is a deeply ingrained aspect of human behavior and motivation. It essentially pertains to the underlying reasons or motivations behind our actions, providing a clear sense of purpose and direction. While consciousness allows us to be aware of external stimuli and react to them, intentions delve deeper into the why behind our actions, effectively shaping our immersion in various activities. It’s fascinating to consider the diversity of intentions among individuals, as they are unique to each person and can significantly influence their choices and behaviors. Understanding our own intentions can lead to a greater sense of self-awareness and personal growth, as it enables us to navigate our lives with clarity and purpose.

    Combining consciousness – being aware and reacting – and intentions – the reason why we do things – could bring us optimal experience. We keep honest about our intentions and block off anything by choosing our reactions to events, we could gain optimal experience and happiness.

    The theme of integrating consciousness and intentions is an intriguing one. By combining our awareness of the world around us with the reasons that drive our actions, we have the potential to cultivate an optimal experience. It’s a fascinating notion that being honest about our intentions and purposefully selecting our reactions to external stimuli could lead to a heightened state of happiness and fulfillment. This idea prompts further reflection on the interconnected nature of our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and how they contribute to our overall well-being and perception of the world. It’s a thought-provoking concept that encourages us to consider the impact of our intentions and responses on the quality of our experiences.

    Attention chooses what our consciousness focuses on. It chooses what external stimuli we accept therefore, shuts down anything that we do not consider important. In effect, this creates memories for us, feelings for us, knowledge, and skills, which makes us the person we are.

    The concept of attention and its influence on our consciousness is a topic that has fascinated philosophers, psychologists, and neuroscientists for centuries. The ability of attention to direct our focus towards specific stimuli while filtering out others plays a pivotal role in shaping our perceptions and experiences.

    When attention selects what our consciousness focuses on, it essentially acts as a gatekeeper for our awareness. By selectively choosing which external stimuli to accept and process, it actively shapes the contents of our conscious experience. This dynamic process not only determines the information that enters our awareness but also influences how we perceive and interpret the world around us.

    Moreover, the role of attention extends beyond mere perception; it significantly impacts the formation of memories, the development of emotions, and the acquisition of knowledge and skills. By actively engaging with certain stimuli and disregarding others, attention effectively contributes to the construction of our individual identities and personal narratives.

    In essence, the selective nature of attention yields profound implications for our cognitive, emotional, and behavioral repertoires. This intricate interplay between attention and consciousness highlights the intricate ways in which our mental processes shape the very essence of who we are as individuals.

    The ability to focus attention at will results from controlling consciousness. Being aware, putting focus, keeping true to intentions, and acting in line with it, brings forth that optimal experience.

    However, there are things around us that will disrupt our attention because they take more importance compared to what we are doing. There are nagging thoughts in our heads that make us feel scared, angry, or even sad. And these, however strong our willpower is, take us away from the present moment reducing the enjoyment we experience in what we do.

    Battling those that vie for our attention is a battle for the self. With everything that simultaneously happening around us, we struggle to choose what is important for us and what brings us value. These struggles, if we win them over, at the present moment, take us into a state of flow that we lose the sense of time, we forget the disturbing facts around us, and only what we do during the moment, what we intentionally do, where we put our focus on, brings us a sense of happiness and joy, and eventually fulfillment.

    This battle for attention and focus is an ever-present challenge in our modern lives. The constant bombardment of information, notifications, and demands for our time and energy creates a constant tension within us. In order to navigate this, we must learn to prioritize and discern what truly matters to us. By consciously choosing where to direct our attention, we can enter a state of flow, where our actions align with our values and bring us a deep sense of satisfaction. This ability to focus on the present moment, despite the chaos around us, is a powerful skill that can lead to greater fulfillment and purpose in our lives. It is through this intentional focus and dedication that we can find true happiness and joy, even amidst the distractions and challenges of modern life.

    Giving our full attention to the limits of our concentration on the present moment of doing something just for the purpose of doing it without any ulterior motives gives us that experience of joy which creates an upward loop because it makes us do it again and better the next time resulting to a better version of ourselves.

    In a nutshell, I think knowing what we want to do and eliminating anything that does not help us achieve what we want to accomplish at least in the present moment, will help us put maximum concentration, enjoy life, experience happiness, and as a result, become a better person than who we were yesterday.

  • Waiting for the reward

    Waiting for the reward

    Waiting for the reward of our hard work is mostly tied up with enjoying the fruits of our labor when we retire. But could we enjoy it now while we are working? Do we really need to wait for the end of the line before we start enjoying life?

    If people are good only because they fear punishment, and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.

    Albert Einstein

    Our every waking hour, we mostly think of work. What are we going to do, what tasks do we need to complete, the emails we would be getting, the chat, the text messages, the meetings, the calls, We work long hours in the hope that we get everything done and maybe, someday, even if we are not actively hoping for it, subconsciously, we get rewarded for everything. That we retire and enjoy blissfully the fruits of our labor.

    This constant preoccupation with work can sometimes consume our thoughts and energy, leaving little room for other important aspects of life. It’s important to find a balance and not let work overshadow everything else. While dedication and hard work are admirable traits, it’s also essential to prioritize personal well-being, relationships, and leisure activities. Achieving a healthy work-life balance can lead to a more fulfilling and sustainable approach to life and work.

    At least 30% of our daily lives are spent in our jobs. 5 days in a week and about 21 days in a month. What’s left is we sleep, or even spend more hours at work because, admit it, there is just a lot to do. And we hope to finish it now because we want it done now. Well, guess what? It does not end. It just keeps coming.

    Imagining that when we retire, all we are going to do is travel, enjoy what the world has to offer, and not a care in the world. Spend time with our loved ones and finally, at last, have that life we have been dreaming of for ourselves.

    By the time we retire, we are too old to enjoy life. To enjoy the fruits of our labor. To spend time with our loved ones. To help other people who need us. And before we know it, or before we even start, we are too sick to submerge ourselves in that feeling and experience that we have been longing to have.

    Retirement is often associated with the opportunity to pursue passions, embrace leisurely activities, and create cherished memories with loved ones. The freedom that retirement brings allows for the exploration of new horizons, the indulgence in diverse cultures, and the experience of a myriad of flavors and traditions. It presents the gift of time, offering the chance to savor the sights and sounds of the world without the constraints of a hectic schedule. In the realm of retirement, the possibilities are abundant, inviting individuals to immerse themselves in the beauty and wonder that the world has to offer.

    As we navigate through our professional pursuits, it’s crucial to cultivate a mindset that values and prioritizes personal happiness and holistic fulfillment. This can involve setting boundaries, engaging in regular self-care practices, and embracing the support of friends and family. By acknowledging the significance of life beyond work, we can strive for a more harmonious and gratifying existence. Ultimately, the true reward lies not just in retirement, but in savoring each moment along the way, finding joy in both our professional endeavors and personal experiences.

    What are we waiting for? Why do we continue to feel that after all of these, after everything we are sacrificing, we will get a better life? What makes us hope that we get that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow? And in the first place, what makes is think that our present moment is not our the future we are waiting for?

    Would that make us happy? Would finally retiring and basking on the beach or traveling around the world or enjoying one cuisine after another would make us happy? Does that even become the meaning of life, or of living? To work until we can’t enjoy life a little bit because that end of the rainbow is also the end of life?

    I’ve been thinking about this because of the book Flow written by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. I just started but the beginning chapter spoke about the reward after the work. And I think, what he is about to say in the book is being immersed in the moment we are doing something which what really makes people happy.

    Focus on creating instead of consuming. Maybe that would bring us real happiness. Maybe that would give us fulfillment. Maybe that would give us meaning. Maybe that would give us a sense of purpose.

    When we focus on creating, whether it’s a piece of art, a solution to a problem, or a new opportunity, we engage in a deeply rewarding process. The act of creation allows us to express ourselves, tap into our creativity, and contribute something unique to the world. It’s about actively shaping our environment and leaving a lasting impact.

    By contrast, a consumption-focused mindset often leads to temporary satisfaction, but it can also breed a sense of dependency and inertia. Instead of being passive recipients of what the world offers, we can find true fulfillment in actively shaping our lives and the world around us. It’s a mindset that fosters growth, innovation, and a genuine sense of purpose.

    So, perhaps the key to real happiness, fulfillment, meaning, and purpose lies in the shift from consumption to creation. Let’s embrace the joy of bringing something new into the world, in whatever form it may take.

    What do we get from doing? Maybe that is the wrong question for us. Aiming for what we could get could be the wrong mindset. Maybe finding that feeling of being immersed in what we want to do, to create, rather than consuming to enjoy, is what will bring us the feeling of happiness.

    The question of what we gain from our actions is a fundamental one. It’s natural to seek tangible benefits and outcomes from our efforts, but perhaps that approach is not always the most fulfilling. Rather than focusing solely on what we could gain from a particular pursuit, it might be more enriching to consider the intrinsic value of the activity itself.

    When we shift our perspective from a results-oriented mindset to one centered on the experience, we open ourselves up to a different kind of fulfillment. Instead of approaching our endeavors as means to an end, we can strive to immerse ourselves in the process of creation and expression. This shift in focus encourages us to find joy in the act of doing, rather than solely in the outcome. Engaging in activities for the sheer satisfaction of creating or contributing, rather than consuming for enjoyment, can potentially lead to a deeper sense of contentment and happiness.

    While I try to finish the book, I’ll continue sharing what I learned through these blogs.

  • When pride and greed comes

    When pride and greed comes

    Pride and greed are two human traits that have the word “excess” tied to its meaning. It all boils down to having more than enough – having more than what is needed.

    When is enough? What makes us push for more? When do we stop?

    You started working to support your family. Spent hours at work. Learned the ropes and all. With each passing day that became months and years, you felt the potential of being the boss. Having your own team. Living a dream. Buying what money can bring. Pushing for more and climbing.

    As time went on, your ambitions grew stronger. The daily grind and hard work became the foundation of your journey towards success. The challenges you faced only fueled your determination to carve out your own path, leading to the realization of your potential as a leader. You envisioned creating a team of your own, where you could cultivate a positive working environment and inspire others to reach their full potential. This dream fueled your relentless pursuit of success, driving you to strive for more and reach new heights in your career. The prospect of achieving financial stability and affording the luxuries that come with it motivated you to keep pushing forward, continuously climbing the ladder of success. Each step you took was infused with the unwavering determination to turn your aspirations into a reality, and you were unwavering in your pursuit of your dreams.

    When do you stop? When do you say you have enough? When do you feel satisfied? When do it end? When do you rest?

    Walter White is the lead character in the series Breaking Bad. He is a chemistry teacher who has cancer and afraid to leave nothing, resorted to cooking meth to save up money that would be enough for their kids college tuition. However, with his greed and ego, he did not stop when he finally earned $700k+. He wanted an empire. By doing so, a lot of people got killed, he lost his family and died in the end.

    The slow-burn crime TV show got me hooked because I was holding into the hope that he’ll change his ways and realize that his pride and greed are eating him alive. I was wrong. Only in the finale episode of the show did he do something not for himself. Well, maybe not.

    When do we stop? When we think we can get more, we always go for more. I think that is the most basic foundation of the seven deadly sins. All of it are definition of any action that is excess of what is needed. More sex, more desires, more food, more about self, more for self, more hate, and more nothingness.

    `When do we stop? When we think we can get more, we always go for more. I think that is the most basic foundation of the seven deadly sins. All of it are definition of any action that is excess of what is needed. More sex, more desires, more food, more about self, more for self, more hate, and more nothingness. In our relentless pursuit of excess, we often lose sight of what is truly important. The insatiable desire for more can lead to a never-ending cycle of dissatisfaction and unhappiness. It’s a reminder to pause and reflect on the choices we make, to find contentment in simplicity and gratitude for what we already have. Our actions can be guided by a sense of sufficiency rather than an endless quest for more. Finding balance and moderation in our pursuits can lead to a more fulfilling and meaningful life. Let’s ponder on the wisdom of knowing when to stop and embracing sufficiency in all aspects of our lives.

    I do not think it is wrong to desire something to make our lives better. To live a comfortable life. To provide better things to our loved ones. However, when we keep aiming for more and more than what we really need, I think that is when greed comes.

    I do not think it is wrong to desire something to make our lives better. To live a comfortable life. To provide better things to our loved ones. However, when we keep aiming for more and more than what we really need, I think that is when greed comes.

    The desire for improvement is a natural and essential part of the human experience. Wanting to enhance our quality of life and provide for our loved ones is motivated by a sense of responsibility and compassion. Striving for comfort and security is a fundamental aspect of seeking happiness and well-being.

    However, as this pursuit intensifies, it can lead to excessive accumulation and consumption. When the quest for more goes beyond fulfilling genuine needs and transitions into a relentless pursuit of excess, it transforms into greed. Greed can cloud our judgment, foster dissatisfaction, and overshadow the value of non-material aspects of life such as relationships, experiences, and personal growth.

    Therefore, while it is reasonable to aspire to improve our lives, it is crucial to maintain a balance and perspective, ensuring that our desires remain in harmony with genuine needs and do not give in to insatiable consumerism. Achieving a sense of contentment with what we have can lead to a more fulfilling and meaningful life, free from the detrimental effects of unchecked greed.

    Instead of being grateful that we have a working phone in our hands, we desire the one others are using. Instead of spending real time with the people we want to spend time with, we desire to go to places that we see on our feeds. Instead of being content with what we have, we look for something else.

    Instead of being grateful that we have a working phone in our hands, we desire the one others are using. Instead of spending real time with the people we want to spend time with, we desire to go to places that we see on our feeds. Instead of being content with what we have, we look for something else.

    In today’s society, it’s common for individuals to overlook the value of what they already possess. Oftentimes, the constant exposure to what others have or experience through social media and other platforms can create a sense of inadequacy or discontentment with our own lives. Instead of appreciating the convenience of having a functional phone, we may find ourselves longing for the latest model or being envious of others’ possessions. Similarly, the time we spend with loved ones should be cherished, yet the influence of social media can lead to a desire for glamorous experiences seen online rather than authentic connections with those around us. This perpetual cycle of comparison and longing can hinder our ability to find contentment and appreciation for the present moment. It’s important to reflect on these tendencies and strive to refocus on gratitude and genuine human connections, valuing what we have rather than constantly seeking for something external to fulfill us.

    Again, having better things to have a comfortable life for ourselves and our loved ones is not wrong. Go for it. But, be conscious and see where your life is now. First, be thankful. And second, know what is enough for you. If these two are not established, prepare for a very miserable life.

    Again, having better things to have a comfortable life for ourselves and our loved ones is not wrong. Go for it. But, be conscious and see where your life is now. First, be thankful. And second, know what is enough for you. If these two are not established, prepare for a very miserable life.

    Understanding the balance between striving for a better life and appreciating what we already have is crucial. It’s natural to want comfort and security for ourselves and our loved ones. However, it’s equally important to remain conscious of our current circumstances and express gratitude for the blessings in our lives. Achieving a sense of contentment and sufficiency is key to avoiding a sense of perpetual dissatisfaction. Without this foundation, the pursuit of material wealth and success can lead to a perpetual sense of longing and discontentment.

  • Choosing business over people

    Choosing business over people

    Choosing business over people may sound like a bad thing. However, it is the reality. Businesses exist to earn money. And most companies will result to drastic measures to ensure profits are there, even if it means letting go of people.

    Of course, the business comes first. In all honesty, if the business is not profitable, there would not be jobs. But, when staff reduction happens, more work is given to the few left. Have we considered its impact on their mental health?

    Truth be told. We all know this. Businesses exist to make money. Whatever the “whys” or “vision statements” there are that business owners say, it is all about money. Why even venture into something that will take up too much time and effort if it is not about it. Right?

    It’s an undeniable fact that the primary goal of businesses is to generate revenue. While entrepreneurs may articulate lofty mission statements and aspirations, the underlying driving force is financial gain. It’s rational to question the rationale behind investing significant time and resources if not for the pursuit of monetary success. The bottom line is a critical factor in the existence and sustainability of any enterprise, shaping decisions and strategies at every turn.

    Businesses exist because of money. We join any company because we want to get paid. It is not because we believe in the company’s mission and vision. We needed the job. We need to work. We need to get paid. We need the money.

    Understanding the relationship between businesses and individuals is crucial in today’s world. Indeed, the financial aspect is a significant driving force behind why individuals seek employment. While monetary compensation is a key factor in job decisions, it’s essential to acknowledge that other elements also play a role. Factors such as job satisfaction, personal fulfillment, opportunities for growth, and alignment with the company’s values and vision also contribute to the overall work experience. By considering these additional aspects, individuals can strive for a more comprehensive and rewarding employment journey, where financial stability harmonizes with personal and professional growth.

    And as much as we want to believe that the business takes care of its people first, money will always become a priority when push comes to shove. When bad situations are rising endangering the existence of the business, aside from reducing other costs, it is the labor force that will really feel the impact.

    In times of economic hardship or organizational restructuring, employees often bear the brunt of the burden. This can lead to heightened stress, decreased job satisfaction, and even implications for their physical and mental well-being. It’s essential for businesses to navigate challenging times with empathy and a focus on finding equitable solutions that prioritize the welfare of their employees, who are integral to the success and sustainability of the enterprise.

    Now, how much effort you put into your work, become recognized, climb the corporate ladder, and earn that covetous title, if profits are down, none of those will matter. You are still at risk of losing that job.

    It’s undeniable that the value of hard work, recognition, career advancement, and achieving coveted professional titles is significant in the pursuit of a successful and fulfilling career. However, it’s crucial to acknowledge that in the dynamic and competitive landscape of the professional world, the performance and financial stability of the organization hold immense importance. Despite an individual’s dedication and accomplishments, when a company’s profits decline, it can lead to challenging circumstances, including the potential risk of job insecurity.

    The impact of economic downturns, unexpected market shifts, or internal financial challenges within an organization can overshadow individual achievements and hard work. This situation can result in increased vulnerability to potential layoffs, restructurings, or other workforce adjustments, regardless of an employee’s efforts and contributions to the company’s success. Therefore, it’s essential for professionals to not only focus on personal career development but also remain cognizant of the broader economic and organizational factors that can influence the stability of their employment.

    Navigating through such circumstances requires a multifaceted approach, which may involve proactive measures such as enhancing professional skills, diversifying expertise, fostering strong internal and external relationships, and staying informed about industry trends. Additionally, maintaining a flexible and adaptable mindset can be pivotal in responding to fluctuating organizational dynamics while safeguarding one’s professional standing.

    Staff reduction impacts a lot of things. The first obvious one is workload. Those who will be considered to stay will do as much as twice as before for the same pay as before. Morale gets impacted especially for those who feel they could be next. Mental health gets affected as stress, pressure, longer hours, and lack of sleep gets you just to make sure the business survive this turbulent times.

    A lot of people have told me that moving from one company to another is all about the money. Well, that can not be farther from the truth. Again, we join companies because we need to get paid for the work. Other stuff like company brand names, we know people, we believe in what they do, etc, are just additional reasons we tell ourselves to justify the move and not to come off to other people as someone who is just after the money.

    When considering a job change, it’s important to take into account various factors that contribute to overall job satisfaction and fulfillment. While financial compensation is undoubtedly a significant aspect of any job, it’s not the sole driving force behind professional decisions. As individuals, we seek opportunities that align with our values, allow us to grow personally and professionally, and provide a sense of purpose.

    Company culture, the potential for career advancement, the opportunity to work on meaningful projects, and a supportive work environment are all factors that can weigh heavily in the decision to transition from one company to another. These elements contribute to a fulfilling work experience and can significantly impact overall job satisfaction. It’s important to acknowledge and prioritize these aspects alongside financial considerations when evaluating potential career moves.

    So, if businesses prioritize money and people are there for money, what can we do?

    First, do not get attached to the business name/brand. Second, save and invest. Third, accept that the world works as it is. Can change but I don’t know as to what.

    At the end of the day, no matter what inspirational words you read, or what motivating vision you see, or even promises of a great career track, when profits are not met, the business will always take action to get more money.

  • When you realize your “NO” is powerful

    When you realize your “NO” is powerful

    Have you tried saying NO to things that life throws at you that you do not like? Or are you still saying YES because you have no choice?

    When I started working for a call center, I had no idea what I was getting into. All I know is that I have to get a job because I have a family to support. It was almost a year from my graduation rites and I was still looking for work.

    So, just armed with knowing how to speak English and the knowledge that I’ll be talking to customers, I took my chances in one of the pioneers of call centers in the Philippines.

    As I stepped into the call center, the buzzing atmosphere and the constant sound of ringing phones were overwhelming. Despite the initial challenges and the uncertainty of what lay ahead, I was determined to give my best. Gradually, I became more adept at handling customer inquiries, resolving issues, and developing my communication skills. The experience taught me resilience and the value of perseverance during tough times. I realized that this job not only provided for my family but also helped me grow both personally and professionally. Each day brought new experiences and opportunities for growth, and I am grateful for the lessons I learned during my time at the call center.

    And from then on, I had progressed my career from an agent to becoming a workforce management professional who, for those who do not know, is the one who determines how many people do we need to hire, keep, and/or let go. As a workforce management professional, I have been responsible for forecasting staffing needs, creating schedules, monitoring attendance, and adjusting staffing levels as necessary to meet service level and budget targets. This role requires a deep understanding of the business’s operations, the ability to analyze data and workforce trends, and the skill to make strategic decisions that impact the organization’s performance and the employees’ well-being. It’s a challenging yet rewarding position that plays a crucial role in the success of an organization.

    As of this moment, my entire career is all about saying YES. Following what my supervisor told me. Doing things that the manager was asking me to. Acting differently to manage the perception of others. And so on.

    Eventually, this created a very stressful situation for me. Listening to what other people say and changing. Doing things to their liking. Being the person people expect you to be. These are just some that took a toll in me.

    It’s unfortunate when we find ourselves in situations where we feel compelled to constantly say yes and conform to the expectations of others. This pattern can be draining and may lead to feelings of disconnection from our true desires and ambitions. It’s essential to find a way to assert our own needs and aspirations while maintaining professionalism and cooperation in the workplace.

    One approach is to practice assertiveness, which involves expressing our thoughts and needs in a direct and respectful manner. By communicating openly with supervisors and managers, it’s possible to establish boundaries and express our perspectives on tasks and projects. Additionally, seeking opportunities for personal and professional development can empower us to take control of our career path and pursue roles and tasks that align with our genuine interests and strengths. Remember, it’s not about always saying no, but about finding a balance that honors both our own ambitions and the needs of the organization.

    Before you get those eyebrows crossed because of what you read and say that it is my fault for being such a person, I ask you first to look back on your career up to now and think of the times when you were the one in control of the work in accordance with what you want. I bet there are just very few and little moments or even, you can not remember anything at all.

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    Now, what I am trying to say here is the moment you say NO (well, not disrespectful to your boss) to things around you (not just work) and only say YES to things and everyone that matters to you, personally, you will have a more peaceful life enjoying doing things that you put value on.

    The essence of learning to say “no” without being disrespectful and embracing the power of “yes” towards the things and people that truly matter in both personal and professional spheres is a fundamental principle of leading a more fulfilling and peaceful life. When you prioritize your commitments and responsibilities based on personal values and significance, you create a life characterized by genuine happiness and contentment. It allows you to invest your time and energy in endeavors that resonate with your beliefs and aspirations, fostering a sense of purpose and fulfillment. This approach enables you to savor every moment and activity, knowing that they align with your authentic desires and contribute positively to your overall well-being.

    There comes a point in our lives that we all have to make a realization of what is important for us. What are the things we consider that will bring impact to our lives and to those people around us are the things we value. Thus, when we get to this point, we can honestly say NO to things that we do not care about and only say YES to everything we want. This transition signifies a moment of clarity, a shift in perspective that allows us to discern between the essential and the superfluous. It’s the moment when we realize the power we hold to prioritize our own happiness and well-being, as well as the positive influence we can have on the lives of others. Saying NO to the unnecessary enables us to focus our energy on endeavors that truly resonate with our aspirations and values, empowering us to wholeheartedly embrace the opportunities and experiences that align with our authentic desires. By consciously choosing to prioritize our passions and the things that truly matter, we shape a life that is rich in meaning and fulfillment, resonating authenticity and purpose in every aspect. This intentional approach to decision-making becomes a catalyst for personal growth and genuine connections, fostering a sense of contentment and empowerment that permeates every facet of our being.

    Let me rephrase it a little. It is saying NO to those that you think will not bring you closer to your goals and only saying yes to those that will. We are still all different so my NOs will be different from your NOs.

  • | expectations

    | expectations

    What if your actual work is not what you expected when you were hired?

    Jim is wearing his usual white polo shirt tucked with his blue jeans pants. This is what he always wears in the office. He was following what Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg do for their clothes. The minimal decisions on small things to make every day, the more he has time to think about important things.

    The supervisor who reports to him is about six months into the team. He is not new. He had worked with him before in their previous company and he knows he could trust him to do the job. He has proven over and over again that he can deliver so to him, there is no doubt in his mind that he would take care of their deliverables while he was gone.

    Jim took a week-long vacation to celebrate his birthday with his family. During this time, he had disconnected from any means of communication at work. He keeps a strict rule on this. Whenever he is on vacation, during the weekend, or already out of his shift, he totally disconnects. He doesn’t have a work email or messaging app on his phone and he keeps his phone for personal use. Anyway, if something is really urgent, they can call him.

    The week he got back from vacation, Jim talked to his boss to get updates. Nothing unusual, she said. I was able to get what I need from the team, she said. Just a few follow-throughs we need to complete this week, she said.

    Good, I thought. Then there is no need to backtrack and we continue moving forward.

    Jim and his boss start about 3 hours before the rest of their team starts. The business provides customer service 24 hours a day so the schedule of the entire team is spread out throughout the day.

    A little past 8 in the morning when Jim sent a message to his supervisor:

    Hey. Good morning. Ping me when you are here and let’s talk. Just give me updates.

    His supervisor replied, I am here. We can talk in about 30 minutes. That works?

    Alright. Just come here in the room, Jim replied.

    Ok. His supervisor replied. Jim stood up to get coffee from the pantry which by this time would be empty as people are starting to log on to their desks.

    When Jim got back he was surprised to see his supervisor by the door waiting for him.

    “Mark, how are you? You seem 15 minutes early.”, Jim said while approaching Mark and motioning him to get inside the room.

    “I have nothing yet to do so I decided to come here since I know you’ve been here and have free time now.”, Mark said while pulling out the chair in front of Mark’s table to sit down.

    Jim went to his seat at the other side of the table and settled his silver coffee mug down on the table while grabbing the chair to sit down.

    “How are things? Any issues while I was out? Anything urgent on our plate this week?” Jim asked as he sat and swiveled a little bit on his chair.

    “No issues. Nothing urgent for this week. Our usual client meetings. I was able to provide Sam with what she asked for last week. I worked from 5 to 5 so I could cover the team as she kept reaching out to me.”, Mark said.

    “Why? That’s long. Where was Steve?”. Steve is one of Jim’s supervisors who is mainly responsible for the later hours as Mark covers the early part of the day.

    “He was in. But Sam always reached out to me which surprised me as her questions were Steve’s scope.”

    “Ok. And what happened?”

    “I was able to give to her just like what I said.”

    Jim sensed something else was bothering Mark.

    “Ok. Which to me is good except the long hours. What is bothering you?” Jim asked.

    Mark took a deep breath before saying, “This is not what I had signed up for.”

    Jim didn’t want to jump to conclusions so he asked Mark what did he mean by it.

    “You know with everything that had happened with my transfer, to my role, to my salary, and last week, it was like more was being expected from me. I feel like my compensation is not enough for the work I am doing.”, Mark responded calmly.

    Mark was having issues with his compensation, role, and level. He joined the company under a different department and has been there for eight months before he moved to Jim’s department with the expectation that he would get promoted and of course, better compensation. Six months into their department, that has not happened yet because of processes that were missed and he is suffering because of it.

    “What happened? Why are you feeling this way now?” Jim asked. They discussed his situation before and he is scheduled to be promoted in three months. Jim now is wondering what caused him to get all these concerns back.

    “When you were out, it felt like everything is my responsibility even if it is not my scope. That I did not expect. It is like I was supposed to deliver things when in fact, you got Steve to do that. That made me think again about my role and compensation which until now, I have not gotten. I feel it is just unfair.” Mark explained.

    “What else?”, Jim asked to see if there is anything else.

    “I am tempted to entertain the offers I am getting outside. Same work I am doing. Higher compensation than what I have. But I do not want to leave. I like it here. I like working with you. It is just that last week, it hit me with all the things Sam kept asking of me. This is not what I signed up for. Why am I even here?”

    “Okay.”, Jim started. “There are two ways how to see what is happening to you. One, it is unfair for you to do the work without being compensated enough. That we are working out already and because of how large our company is, there are processes that we must strictly adhere to. You know in that aspect, I do not have enough influence.”

    Mark nodded as this he understood clearly and they both talked about it were before.

    “Second”, Jim continued, “is to view what happened as what to expect in two or three years. What you experienced last week is a taste of how is it like to have a higher position. It is very noisy. It is very stressful. It is a level that will require most of your time. It is a level that will drain your brain power. It is where you work almost nonstop.”

    “That is my world.”, Jim added while leaning back for a bit on his chair. “It is much noisier on Sam’s level which you know I had been and I do not want that for me as I do not get to do other things I want.”

    “Now, if you look at it from that perspective, ask yourself, is this what I want to do for five or ten years? Because if it is, then whatever your situation now, will get rewarded in the future. And if not, and that is fine, at least you know what could happen in the future if you decide to move further up. Settling where you are now is okay in terms of what you do. But do not expect big rewards.” Jim finished while looking at Mark’s eyes. He picked up his mug and sipped his coffee.

    “Yeah. I think everything just weighed down on me and brought back my issue because of the incessant questions from Sam. Is she really like that? I don’t get that much time with here except last week when you were out.” Mark replied while rocking back and forth on his chair.

    “She moves fast because she had a lot of things to complete and she trust us to get our own department in order so she doesn’t need to think about it which is what we have been doing.” Jim answered with a tinge of pride.

    “I think I just got overwhelmed. But don’t worry Jim, I will still do what you except me to do. That I can promise you. I’ll wait and hope that my status will finally be fixed in the next three months.”, Mark said with a little bit of conviction.

    “Good to hear.” Jim stood up. “I know you keep to your commitments and promises. That is why I want you in the team.” Jim slowly walked towards the door and opened it.

    “Just remember what you experienced and decide if that, along with the possibility of more money and more stress, is something you can do for five years.” Jim said while Mark was standing up and walked towards the door.

    “I can’t say now but yes. That is something for me to think of. Thanks Jim.”