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MY EXPERIENCE | MY EXPERTISE

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  • Action | Doing Instead Of Waiting

    Action | Doing Instead Of Waiting

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    Some of us are not willing to perform the necessary action. Some wait, some hope. Some just wish, and some pray. For things to get better, we let the world to just give it to us thinking we deserve it. Though, most of the time, what we have is the result of what we have done.

    There are some of us that wait for things to happen. This can be seen in our daily lives and our work. We hope that we get the promotion or the bonus. That on our birthday, our parents or loved ones give us the gift we want. We secretly think that we get the same thing as our siblings.

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    And while we are thinking of these things, some of us do something about it. We do what is necessary at work. We perform. At home, we get to the good side of our parents and siblings. For more personal goals, we do what is needed to achieve success.

    But, for those who do nothing, remember that some things in life can only be achieved if we move. By acting, we can accomplish what we set out to do. If we just keep waiting for things to happen, well, by luck it may. But there is no rational explanation for that. Everything we have so far is a product of what we have done. Of course, with the help of other people. However, without our own doing, nothing will happen.

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    Our own determination

    It’s important to recognize that waiting for things to happen without taking any action can lead to missed opportunities and unfulfilled potential. By proactively engaging with our goals and aspirations, we increase our chances of success and bring our desires closer to realization. While external factors and support from others can play a role in our achievements, it is our own determination, hard work, and initiative that ultimately propel us forward. Embracing a proactive mindset empowers us to shape our own outcomes and create the future we envision.

    Moreover, the act of taking initiative and pursuing our endeavors demonstrates a commitment to our own growth and development. It signifies a willingness to overcome challenges, learn from experiences, and evolve as individuals. By actively engaging with life, we cultivate a sense of agency and autonomy, driving ourselves toward the realization of our aspirations and ambitions.

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    Ultimately, seizing opportunities and pursuing our dreams requires us to step out of the realm of passive expectation and into the realm of purposeful action. It is through our actions that we manifest our desires, shape our experiences, and carve out our path in the world. So, instead of passively waiting for life to unfold, let’s embrace the power of action and take charge of our destinies, shaping a future that reflects our deepest aspirations and endeavors.

    Fulfillment in our action

    The things we want to achieve will not come to us by mere hoping, wishing, and praying. We all have to act to make things happen. Our situation will not change if we do not take the necessary actions to take us where we want to go.

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    For example, in our careers, we would not climb the corporate ladder if we just hoped that our boss would give it to us because of let us say, tenure, that we think we are entitled to it. Entitlement is so 2008.

    Or having the latest gadgets hoping our parents will buy them because our friends in school or our siblings have them. Entitlement again.

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    Achieving our goals requires more than mere anticipation and desire; it necessitates proactive effort and perseverance. Change comes from taking decisive actions, not just from hoping and waiting. In the realm of our professional lives, advancement up the corporate hierarchy isn’t solely attained through expectation and tenure; it demands dedication, skill, and diligence. Entitlement to success based solely on tenure is an outdated notion.

    Similarly, seeking the latest gadgets with the presumption that our parents will provide them because of peer influence or familial comparisons is rooted in entitlement. True fulfillment and progress come from our personal efforts and merit, not from entitlement or unfounded expectations.

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    Act and do

    The focus should always be on the actions we take to achieve our desired outcomes. Simply expecting things to fall into place without effort is not a sustainable approach. Entitlement does not lead to accomplishment; it is the relevant work and dedication that pave the way for success.

    When we set our sights on a specific goal, it’s essential to recognize that reaching it requires a concerted effort. This effort involves planning, perseverance, and often, pushing beyond our comfort zones. It’s the consistent strides we make towards our objectives that ultimately lead to meaningful results. Furthermore, understanding the connection between our actions and the desired outcomes enables us to navigate challenges with resilience and determination. Ultimately, it’s the journey of dedication and hard work that shapes the path to success.

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    Waiting for luck

    While luck may sometimes grant us our desires without active effort, more often than not, it is the consistent and diligent pursuit of our goals that yields results. It is through these small, regular actions that we exert influence on the world around us, fostering order and harmony in our lives.

    While luck may occasionally play a role in our journey, it is the steadfast commitment to our ambitions that truly shapes our reality. Through consistent and diligent effort, we not only manifest our desires but also cultivate a sense of purpose and impact in the world.

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    Diligent effort

    It is important to recognize the power of our actions in shaping the outcomes we desire. By consistently working towards our goals, we not only increase our chances of success but also cultivate a sense of discipline and resilience. Every action we take, no matter how small, contributes to the overall trajectory of our lives. It is this accumulation of efforts that ultimately leads to the realization of our aspirations.

    When we engage in consistent and diligent pursuit, we showcase our commitment and determination, signaling to the universe our readiness to receive the fruits of our labor. It is a demonstration of faith in our abilities and a dedication to the path we have chosen. Furthermore, the act of working consistently towards our goals instills a sense of purpose and direction in our lives, allowing us to navigate challenges with grace and confidence.

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    In fostering order and harmony in our lives, we also create a ripple effect in the world around us. Our actions influence not only our personal experiences but also the environment and individuals with whom we interact. By embodying dedication and perseverance, we inspire others to pursue their own aspirations and contribute to a collective atmosphere of growth and empowerment.

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  • Failure | Learn to be successful

    Failure | Learn to be successful

    Commit mistakes to be successful

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    Failure. We’ve all been there, feeling down and disappointed when we look back on the mistakes we’ve made. Sometimes we just see ourselves as total failures because of all the wrong choices and moves we’ve made. These thoughts and feelings can really get us down, messing with how we see ourselves and our potential for success.

    But you know what? Despite all these struggles, we’ve gotta remember that failure is actually a key part of the road to success. It might sound kind of weird at first – how can two totally different experiences be so connected in a big way?

    Basically, the link between failure and success comes down to growth. Failing teaches us important lessons that we might not have learned otherwise. Through our mistakes, we gain insights, build up resilience, and develop the determination to keep going even when things go wrong.

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    On top of that, failure often pushes us to learn more about ourselves. It makes us rethink our goals, motivations, and approaches, leading to personal and professional growth. So, in a way, failure becomes a driver for change, pointing us toward success by teaching us important lessons and making things clear.

    So, even though it’s tough to accept failure at the moment, it’s important to remember that it can actually help us achieve our dreams. By owning up to our mistakes, learning from them, and using them to push us forward, we can deal with the tricky link between failure and success with strength and determination.

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    Learn and adjust

    Learning from failure is the key to success, no doubt about it! If we keep making the same mistakes over and over without picking up any lessons, we’re just spinning our wheels. Take, for instance, working on a report for your boss. If you mess up the numbers once, you’ve got to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Or think about playing volleyball. Pass the ball to the wrong person once, learn from it, and pass it to the right one next time.

    In the business world, you’ve got to see failures as chances to improve. Whether it’s a financial slip-up or a bad call in a crucial decision, the key is to own up to it and use it to get better. By learning from these slip-ups, you can boost your skills and overall success.

    In the end, going from failure to success means being open to looking at yourself, changing, and getting better. Seeing failure as a path to growth helps you push past your limits, build up resilience, and aim for bigger things. It’s through this process of learning and refining that real success takes shape.

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    Learning from failure is a big deal. When things go south, it’s a chance to grow and do better. It’s important to think about why things went wrong, ’cause that self-reflection is key to real learning. Taking time to figure out what caused the slip-up, making a solid plan to fix it, and then following through are all super important steps in turning failure into success.

    By looking at what led to the mistake, you get some valuable insights that’ll help you fix the immediate issue and stop similar blunders down the road. Thinking it all through is crucial for real progress and personal growth.

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    Accepting failures as a means to be successful

    Failure, when you look at it the right way, can actually push you to make some really positive changes. Embracing the lessons it teaches you and using them to make things better is a great strategy for achieving success. Every stumble is a chance to switch things up, improve your plans, and come out even stronger than before.

    Success is different for everyone, it’s a really personal thing. For me, success isn’t about reaching a particular goal, but more about doing meaningful and fulfilling things every day that help me grow and last for the long haul. It’s about the journey, the ongoing process of doing well in different parts of life. But for you, it might be all about hitting specific milestones like getting a promotion, owning a home, or other material things. It’s super important not to compare your progress to other people’s. Each of us is creating our own path, and it’s crucial not to get caught up in comparing our achievements to those of others. Instead, focusing on our personal goals lets us figure out and go after our own version of success.

    When you think about success, it’s important to recognize how many different parts there are to it. It’s not just about work achievements and stuff you own, but also about personal growth, feeling fulfilled, and the impact you have on others. Success can mean lots of things, from moving forward in your career to being creative, from building strong relationships to helping out in your community. What feels like success to one person might not mean the same thing to someone else, and that’s the cool thing about it being so personal.

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    Our failures and successes are our own

    Understanding that being successful doesn’t have to look the same for everyone sets us free from trying to fit into someone else’s idea of success. When we embrace our own path and decide what success means to us, we can truly celebrate our wins in a way that feels real. By setting our own goals that match our values and respecting our own journey, we can live a more satisfying and purposeful life.

    Success in life is about more than just reaching a goal – it’s also about being able to bounce back from tough times, being flexible, and being open to learning from mistakes. It’s about enjoying the journey, the lessons we learn, and the progress we make along the way. Seeing success in this fuller way helps us appreciate the present while staying committed to our dreams.

    As we go through life, it’s important to have a mindset that values progress, no matter how slow, and is willing to rethink what success means as we grow. Being open to change lets us embrace our shifting goals and dreams, knowing that what we consider success today might change as we learn and experience new things.

    Ultimately, success isn’t the same for everyone – it’s a unique and evolving journey shaped by our values, dreams, and accomplishments. Recognizing and respecting the different ways people see success enriches our understanding of it, creating a culture where we celebrate each other’s victories and show mutual respect.

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  • Oubaitori | Running at our own pace

    Oubaitori | Running at our own pace

    Ouibaitori (pronounced as oh-buy-toe-ree) is a Japanese idiom that is based on four trees – Cherry, Plum, Peach, and Apricot. I don’t know much about trees but the idiom simply means we all grow and bloom at our own pace. In the workplace, this could mean that oubaitori is running at our own pace.

    I can’t remember where I first read this word. All I can remember is I did searched its meaning. “We all grow and bloom at our own pace.” In a world where we run, in a world where we think we have to beat everyone first, in a world where we want to become first, this idiom can put everything in perspective.

    Different starting point

    When I was starting my career, I had an opportunity to get to know a person who opened my eyes to the world of investments. This person had about Php 100k (about $1,800 by this time) in investment. I was told that time that to start an investment in stocks, that is the amount of money that I need. During those time, I do not have that kind of money. I was living paycheck to paycheck. I was supporting my wife and son. We barely had enough to finance our day-to-day expenses. But the desire to invest and get rich, of course, was implanted in head during that time.

    That person and I were on the same level at work. We have the same title. The workload of our jobs are the same. We are paid the same. We have the same family size. So, how come that person is able to have an investment while I am struggling. Well, our stories are different. Our backgrounds and family history are different. A wealthy family and a poor family. The starting point was different.

    We always wonder how come others are able to achieve something while we don’t. We ask ourselves why they seem to be lucky, affluent than us, and are better in life. Well, sometimes it is not about what we have done. It is about the starting point. Some grew up with wealthy family while some with poor family. There is a difference between where we started and therefore, some will reach their goals earlier than us. Others will still be running the race thinking they are left behind.

    Opportunities and roadblocks

    When I became a manager, I had been interviewing candidates for open positions. I had the privilege to talk to people and get to know their stories. In these interviews, one candidate said, “My friends had advanced in their careers. I am still doing the same thing that I am doing two years ago while they are now managers. I want to move up just like them.” Well, it is good that this candidate has some goals to pursue but comparing this person’s achievement with those friends is not the way to do it.

    I had the same situation. The people I started working with during the start of my career rose up to the ranks of vice presidents while I still a manager. The highest position I had was a director but that was just a short stint. Those people who have higher positions than I were given opportunities. They did very well. Relationships was built. Trust was given to them. Potential was there. Thus, the position were given to them. I, on the other hand, was given the opportunity too, however, I did not open those doors with full intent. I had my own roadblocks that stopped me from pushing forward that I did not think of overcoming. This, coupled with enjoying what I thought was the meaning of life, made me walk and stop.

    I can not say what the candidate had gone through and was left behind by those friends. But for me, I know that we get left behind because we focused on different things. My attention was attuned to other things that does not help me achieve what I want to achieve. This made me stuck where I was and had not reached where my colleagues are now.

    Not at the same time

    It doesn’t matter if others had reached the finish line first. We think we should have been there first, or at least reached the end with them. No. That does not matter. What matters is we get to the finish line. And, not everyone’s finish line, but our own finish line. When we compare where we are with others, we just feel depressed. Come to think of it. They don’t care where you are. Everyone has their own problems. They will just keep running for their own. If we try to go after them, then we might be running towards something that we do not care about.

    Our starting point are different. I, for one, started with poverty. I remember when I was kid days that we do not have anything to eat beside rice, salt, and cooking oil. The friends that I have now, or the people that I worked with, never had that experience. Their stories when they were kids are different than what I have.

    The opportunities laid out to me where different. The situation is different. My former colleagues stayed with the same company for years while I moved to about 5 different companies in a span of about 20 years. My challenges were different. The competition were different. Work demand changes across different companies. And the people I worked with varied with their own personal agendas.

    Grow and bloom differently

    But still, I ran the race. Now, I could say I am happy where I am. It is different from my friends. Some are working abroad. Some holds higher position. Others are earning more money than I. That is not what I have. But this is my race. My own race. I have what I need.

    Let’s all remember that we should not compare what others have to what we have. We all must remember that we are all different from each other. Our starting point, our abilities, and the opportunities laid out in front of us are not the same with others. We run our own race. Our speed and pace is different from one another. We have our own finish line. We grow and bloom differently.

  • When you realize your “NO” is powerful

    When you realize your “NO” is powerful

    Have you tried saying NO to things that life throws at you that you do not like? Or are you still saying YES because you have no choice?

    When I started working for a call center, I had no idea what I was getting into. All I know is that I have to get a job because I have a family to support. It was almost a year from my graduation rites and I was still looking for work.

    So, just armed with knowing how to speak English and the knowledge that I’ll be talking to customers, I took my chances in one of the pioneers of call centers in the Philippines.

    As I stepped into the call center, the buzzing atmosphere and the constant sound of ringing phones were overwhelming. Despite the initial challenges and the uncertainty of what lay ahead, I was determined to give my best. Gradually, I became more adept at handling customer inquiries, resolving issues, and developing my communication skills. The experience taught me resilience and the value of perseverance during tough times. I realized that this job not only provided for my family but also helped me grow both personally and professionally. Each day brought new experiences and opportunities for growth, and I am grateful for the lessons I learned during my time at the call center.

    And from then on, I had progressed my career from an agent to becoming a workforce management professional who, for those who do not know, is the one who determines how many people do we need to hire, keep, and/or let go. As a workforce management professional, I have been responsible for forecasting staffing needs, creating schedules, monitoring attendance, and adjusting staffing levels as necessary to meet service level and budget targets. This role requires a deep understanding of the business’s operations, the ability to analyze data and workforce trends, and the skill to make strategic decisions that impact the organization’s performance and the employees’ well-being. It’s a challenging yet rewarding position that plays a crucial role in the success of an organization.

    As of this moment, my entire career is all about saying YES. Following what my supervisor told me. Doing things that the manager was asking me to. Acting differently to manage the perception of others. And so on.

    Eventually, this created a very stressful situation for me. Listening to what other people say and changing. Doing things to their liking. Being the person people expect you to be. These are just some that took a toll in me.

    It’s unfortunate when we find ourselves in situations where we feel compelled to constantly say yes and conform to the expectations of others. This pattern can be draining and may lead to feelings of disconnection from our true desires and ambitions. It’s essential to find a way to assert our own needs and aspirations while maintaining professionalism and cooperation in the workplace.

    One approach is to practice assertiveness, which involves expressing our thoughts and needs in a direct and respectful manner. By communicating openly with supervisors and managers, it’s possible to establish boundaries and express our perspectives on tasks and projects. Additionally, seeking opportunities for personal and professional development can empower us to take control of our career path and pursue roles and tasks that align with our genuine interests and strengths. Remember, it’s not about always saying no, but about finding a balance that honors both our own ambitions and the needs of the organization.

    Before you get those eyebrows crossed because of what you read and say that it is my fault for being such a person, I ask you first to look back on your career up to now and think of the times when you were the one in control of the work in accordance with what you want. I bet there are just very few and little moments or even, you can not remember anything at all.

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    Now, what I am trying to say here is the moment you say NO (well, not disrespectful to your boss) to things around you (not just work) and only say YES to things and everyone that matters to you, personally, you will have a more peaceful life enjoying doing things that you put value on.

    The essence of learning to say “no” without being disrespectful and embracing the power of “yes” towards the things and people that truly matter in both personal and professional spheres is a fundamental principle of leading a more fulfilling and peaceful life. When you prioritize your commitments and responsibilities based on personal values and significance, you create a life characterized by genuine happiness and contentment. It allows you to invest your time and energy in endeavors that resonate with your beliefs and aspirations, fostering a sense of purpose and fulfillment. This approach enables you to savor every moment and activity, knowing that they align with your authentic desires and contribute positively to your overall well-being.

    There comes a point in our lives that we all have to make a realization of what is important for us. What are the things we consider that will bring impact to our lives and to those people around us are the things we value. Thus, when we get to this point, we can honestly say NO to things that we do not care about and only say YES to everything we want. This transition signifies a moment of clarity, a shift in perspective that allows us to discern between the essential and the superfluous. It’s the moment when we realize the power we hold to prioritize our own happiness and well-being, as well as the positive influence we can have on the lives of others. Saying NO to the unnecessary enables us to focus our energy on endeavors that truly resonate with our aspirations and values, empowering us to wholeheartedly embrace the opportunities and experiences that align with our authentic desires. By consciously choosing to prioritize our passions and the things that truly matter, we shape a life that is rich in meaning and fulfillment, resonating authenticity and purpose in every aspect. This intentional approach to decision-making becomes a catalyst for personal growth and genuine connections, fostering a sense of contentment and empowerment that permeates every facet of our being.

    Let me rephrase it a little. It is saying NO to those that you think will not bring you closer to your goals and only saying yes to those that will. We are still all different so my NOs will be different from your NOs.

  • Progression means more work

    Progression means more work

    Do you really know what it means to get promoted? When you say you are ready to take on new responsibilities, is it really new or more?

    Progression means more work. Moving up the career ladder requires more time and more effort from you. If you think you can do it, go for it. Otherwise, always consider your priorities.

    When you started working, you just go through your tasks day on day. Complete your 8 hours working and maybe on some days extend a little bit whether you get paid or not. Why not? So far you are enjoying it. You like what you are doing. You want to be there not just because you get paid, but because you like it.

    There’s a certain satisfaction that comes with dedicating yourself to something you truly enjoy. The feeling of fulfillment when you invest your time and effort into a job that resonates with your passion is unparalleled. It’s not just about the hours spent but the genuine interest and enthusiasm that drives you forward. When work doesn’t feel like a chore, but rather a meaningful pursuit, every moment spent there becomes valuable.

    And as you eagerly give your best each day, the prospect of going above and beyond becomes second nature. You’re driven not solely by the clock but by the sheer pleasure of contributing to something you deeply care about. It’s this intrinsic motivation and dedication that elevates your work from a mere obligation to a source of personal fulfillment. The joy derived from immersing yourself in your work fuels your productivity, making every task an opportunity for growth and achievement. Your commitment to excellence extends beyond the routine as you strive to continuously improve and make meaningful contributions. So, by embracing your genuine passion and dedication, you pave the way for a truly rewarding journey in the professional world.

    And maybe after a few months or years, your boss hands you additional tasks. You get excited because it is something new. You have something else to try on. And your boss considers you as the go-to guy. This is becoming a good path for you.

    Finding yourself in this position is a testament to your skills and work ethic. Embrace these new challenges and responsibilities with enthusiasm, as they are opportunities to showcase your abilities and further enhance your professional development. Being entrusted with more tasks indicates that your supervisor values your contributions and believes in your capability to deliver excellent results. Take this as a vote of confidence in your abilities and a chance to broaden your expertise. As you continue to excel in these new endeavors, your value within the organization will undoubtedly grow, opening up even more doors for advancement and recognition. Keep up the great work!

    Then, you think about getting promoted. Thinking about that money. Thinking about the team you will lead. Getting excited because you’ll have your own team to lead and guide. You become Captain America of the Avengers.

    Not knowing that getting that promotion, getting higher up the corporate ladder, and having a team of your own will mean something else. You will have more work.

    The journey to achieving a promotion and climbing higher up the corporate ladder, while exciting and rewarding in many ways, also comes with its own set of challenges and responsibilities. It’s essential to acknowledge that alongside the increased authority and potential for leadership in having a team of your own, there often comes a significant increase in workload and managerial duties. This shift can signify a tremendous opportunity for personal and professional growth, as well as a chance to positively impact the work environment and the lives of those within your team. Embracing this change requires a strategic and thoughtful approach to time management, delegation, and honing leadership skills to ensure that the added workload is met with efficiency and effectiveness. Recognizing the multifaceted nature of career advancement can empower individuals to navigate the complexities of their roles with resilience and determination.

    You’ll be responsible for your entire team’s output. You’ll be responsible for assisting your boss with everything. You will have to think, decide, endorse, plan, monitor the team’s work, direct and so on. And all of these are more work and more time.

    Now, I am not saying it is a bad thing. No. It can either be good or bad depending on what you want to do in your life.

    Progressing in your career is good because it is a result of your hard work and by traditional definition, that is a success. Going up the corporate ladder tells a lot about how successful you are in your chosen field.

    The pursuit of progress in one’s career is a commendable endeavor. Advancing through the ranks within a professional setting is often viewed as a well-deserved outcome of dedication and perseverance. By adhering to the traditional metrics of success, ascending the corporate ladder serves as a tangible indicator of one’s proficiency and triumph within their chosen industry. It signifies the culmination of relentless effort, acquired expertise, and the ability to navigate the intricate dynamics of the professional environment. Embracing the challenges and triumphs encountered along this journey further illustrates an individual’s commitment to their personal and professional growth.

    And it becomes worse if you are just aiming for the title and money. When that is all that you are after, becoming a leader and having more responsibilities is not for you.

    Progression means more work. It gives you more money. It requires you more time. If these are things you think you are ready for, make yourself prepared. If not, then, you are setting yourself to failure.

    Progression in any aspect of life often entails putting in more effort and dedication. It’s a journey that demands commitment, time, and resources, and it’s not always an easy path to traverse. However, the potential rewards that come with progression can be substantial. As you advance, you may find yourself with greater financial stability, expanded opportunities, and personal growth. It’s crucial to assess whether you’re prepared for the challenges that come with this pursuit. If you believe you’re ready to take on the additional work, invest the necessary time, and make the requisite sacrifices, then you’re setting yourself on a path towards success and fulfillment. On the other hand, if you’re not willing to commit to the demands of progression, you may inadvertently be setting yourself up for setbacks and obstacles. It’s important to make an informed choice and be truly prepared for the journey ahead, as this will greatly influence your chances of achieving your goals.

    My take on this is if you can not make a significant impact on the lives of others if you are not able to make a meaningful impact on the business, if, and most important of all, your mental health is at risk, then it is not worth climbing up.

    Go get that promotion. Go get that money. Just consider that those two things are just rewards for what you will give in return – time and health.

  • Flexibility is not availability

    Flexibility is not availability

    Flexibility is not availability. Being flexible at work usually means being available all the time. This may not be the right meaning.

    Does it really mean being available when needed? When you say you are highly flexible, does that equate to being able to attend to other people’s concerns all the time? When is enough?

    When you are interviewed for a job, one of the usual questions is about being highly flexible. You immediately say yes thinking that it could not be bad and that you can still negotiate your time. Well, most of the time, you are wrong.

    Flexibility in the workplace is often presented as a desirable trait, and it’s understandable why many would readily agree to be highly flexible during a job interview. The initial allure of appearing accommodating and adaptable can overshadow the potential implications and demands of such an agreement. While the intention may be to retain a sense of control over one’s time, the reality can often be quite different.

    Agreeing to high flexibility without fully understanding the scope and expectations can lead to challenges in maintaining a healthy work-life balance. It’s crucial to engage in open communication with employers regarding the specifics of flexibility and to negotiate terms that align with personal needs and boundaries. True flexibility should involve a reciprocal understanding and respect for both the employee and the employer, promoting a harmonious and sustainable work environment.

    It’s important for individuals to approach the concept of flexibility with a discerning mindset, recognizing the potential impact on their daily lives and well-being. Open dialogue and clear parameters can help transform the concept of flexibility from a potential source of stress into a mutually beneficial arrangement.

    When asked about flexibility, it only means that you are expected to be working when you are asked to work. For rank and file, it could only mean changing shifts, especially in a BPO setting. For managerial positions, it is totally different. The expectations are higher. You will be receiving messages on your personal numbers and the expectation is for you to respond, may it be just for a simple question or something bigger that you need to attend to, even if it is not your regular working hours yet.

    The concept of flexibility in the workplace extends beyond simply being available to work when asked. When discussing flexibility, especially within the framework of a BPO setting, it often pertains to the ability to adjust shifts for individuals in rank-and-file positions. This can involve accommodating changes in work schedules to meet the operational demands of the business.

    In contrast, for employees in managerial positions, the expectations around flexibility take on a different dimension. It often involves being reachable on personal contact numbers, and the expectation to respond promptly, whether it’s a simple query or a more substantial matter that requires attention, even outside of regular working hours. The level of responsibility and accountability in such roles can lead to a more encompassing scope of flexibility, where the demands of the position may transcend typical working hours.

    Whether it’s adapting to shifting schedules or being available for critical communication and decision-making outside of regular working hours, the concept of flexibility in the modern workplace encompasses a diverse set of expectations across different levels of the organizational hierarchy.

    The pandemic has brought work from the office setting to our homes. And while this is beneficial for a lot of people as time and effort from commuting has been reduced, the concept of flexibility has taken a different turn. Since you are at home, maybe doing nothing, maybe you could do the work right there and then. Anyway, you already saved time from commuting, not to mention preparing to go to work, and you could use that time to get some work done.

    Flexibility is not the same as availability. It is not the same as being available all the time. To me, it only means that you have the freedom to make necessary adjustments in your daily routines and schedules as how you see it fit in your personal life. Adjusting and moving things around to attend to your priorities should be the core principle when we think about flexibility.

    The concept of flexibility holds significant value in our daily lives. It’s important to highlight that flexibility is not synonymous with constant availability. It does not imply being at someone’s beck and call consistently. Instead, it embodies the freedom to adapt and modify our daily routines and schedules in a manner that aligns with our personal lives. This freedom allows us to make necessary adjustments, ensuring that we can attend to our priorities and responsibilities effectively. Embracing flexibility entails being able to maneuver and allocate time and resources in a way that resonates with our individual needs and aspirations, thus fostering a healthier balance between our personal and professional endeavors.

    If your priority is work, so be it. If your priority is your family, so be it. To each his own. But being available all the time to attend to other people’s concerns is not flexibility. Living your life so you can be ordered around and do what you are told to is not how I see life should be.

    It’s important to establish boundaries and prioritize what truly matters to you. Sometimes, it’s necessary to take a step back and reassess how we spend our time and energy. We all have our unique priorities and responsibilities, and it’s essential to honor those while also maintaining a sense of autonomy and self-determination. Striking a balance between meeting the needs of others and preserving our own agency is crucial for a fulfilling life. Ultimately, finding harmony between our obligations and personal aspirations is key to leading a life aligned with our values and desires. Embracing this perspective can empower us to live authentically and with purpose, contributing to a sense of contentment and fulfillment.”

    Be available to do what your priorities are. Be flexible enough to adjust to what the chaotic world is giving you. Being available is not being flexible. Be flexible to be available for the things that really matter to you.

  • | deserving

    | deserving

    Do we really think we deserve more than what we receive in exchange for our efforts? Are we overvaluing our work even if it is what is expected?

    “I just want to understand what I did to get this raise so I could correct it,” Janice said. She was having a virtual meeting with Jim trying to get a sense of the small raise and bonus she received in December.

    “Why are you asking?” Jim probed. He was at home that day same with Janice. They had been working from home since the pandemic started.

    “I want to know because I know I did everything I was told to do and I should be getting more than this.” Janice replied.

    “What other things have you done to make you think you should be getting more?” Jim asked.

    “I did what I was told. I do not make mistakes. Why would others get more than I did?” Janice said. While she tried to control the tone of her voice, there is a slight irritation in her from Jim’s repeated questioning. She is not getting the answer she wanted.

    “Did you ask how much others get?” Jim asked. Although he knew it would happen and believes nothing is wrong with that, which is still, up to this point, asking for someone’s compensation is not a welcomed idea, he still probed so he could better give an appropriate response. He did not want Janice to escalate to HR if it comes to that.

    “Well, at first, I was happy with my increase. But then, I thought of asking and learned that in comparison, I was the one who received the lowest increase. Those who made a lot of mistakes and did not complete their tasks got more. Way more than what I got.” Janice responded.

    To this, Jim slightly got irritated. She had been comparing her performance with others and had always been spotting their errors. While that was good to make the team better, she did not do anything to help them correct their ways. Her actions were meant to call out the errors and it ends there. They talked about this before but nothing changed.

    Jim took a long breath and slowly exhaled before responding.

    “Janice, I am going to tell you the truth about business. And from this point on, I will impart something to you so please listen.” Jim waited for Janice to respond yes before continuing.

    “First, we all should be grateful for what we received. No matter how much it is. Others did not get anything and they are okay with it. They look at the good side of it that they still have their jobs.”

    “It is not that…” Janice started.

    “Listen.” Jim cut her off. “Just listen for now.”

    Jim stayed silent for a few seconds. They had their cameras off so they can not see each other’s facial expressions. A wall built by working remotely.

    He continued,”Be grateful. That’s one.”

    “Second, do not compare yourself to others, ever. They have their own lives. You have your own. I bet that if you get a higher increase than them, you will still ask around.”

    “No. It is not…”Janice started again but Jim interrupted her.

    “Janice. Listen. This is the third time I said it. I am trying to impart to you something but you are not listening.”

    Janice shut up. She just stayed silent. Jim had no way of knowing if she was really intended on listening this time but he pushed on.

    “The company has a total budget allocated for any annual increase in compensation and bonuses. It is then distributed according to the performance and value each of us brings to the company. Now, when you said you are doing what you are told, that is the bare minimum. That is expected from you. If you did not do that, you would not get anything.”

    Janice kept silent this time.

    “You have to start looking forward. What do you need to do to get more? Is that even your priority? How will that affect your desire to start a family? Is it all about money or is it about helping others achieve their own goals?

    “Because, Janice, if you are trying to aim to get more money just for the sake of it so you can buy what you want to buy, then you are aiming for the wrong things. Money helps us achieve what we want to achieve. It is a tool. It is not the goal.

    “Do not go after it. Focus on what you want to do. And the money will eventually come. Not today. Not tomorrow. But eventually, it will.”

    Jin stopped and waited for Janice to respond.

    “Thank you, Jim. I still am not clear but I’ll try to remember what you said. Maybe I will understand it someday.”

    “Alright. I have to drop off now for another call. Ping me if you want to talk some more.”

    “Will do. Thanks again.” Then, they both disconnected.

    A few days had passed. Weeks, months, and years. Jim had never gotten a chance to talk to Janice again. Janice moved to a different account. Jim moved to a different company. They lost touch. What happened after that conversation, no one knows.

    But Jim remembers that conversation well. He thought if he gave the right advice. Was telling her to be grateful and just wait the right move? Or was it something he just said to shut her up and stop complaining about what she got? Isn’t it about getting what she deserves for the work she has done? Wasn’t that the essence of working?

    Maybe he thought of giving that advice because he himself never asked for anything. He just focused on the work that was required. He was thankful for all that was given to him – the recognition, the bonuses, the awards, the promotion. He was told that he deserved it. But then again, aiming for it was never his playbook.

    Whatever comes his way is a byproduct of the work he has done.

    Deserving is just another word for entitlement.

  • Learning | Past vs Future

    Learning | Past vs Future

    Learning from the past. Forget what happened. What’s done is done. Move forward. Plan for the future. The past is not a good predictor of the future. What really is it?

    The start of a new year often prompts us to reflect on the past and contemplate the future. It is common to hear people talk about being grateful for the experiences of the past year and setting resolutions for the year ahead. While these traditions hold great significance, there is another aspect that I find worthy of discussion. Rather than solely focusing on personal improvements and commitments, let’s delve into the broader implications of these annual rituals. Embracing change and growth is essential, but it is equally important to address the collective challenges and opportunities that lie ahead. Let’s explore how we can contribute to a better world and effect positive change in our communities. After all, our individual efforts contribute to the larger tapestry of society.

    The past can indeed teach us a great deal. Reflecting on our past actions can provide profound insights into both our failures and successes. By looking back, we gain the opportunity to discern what we may have done wrong or right, enabling us to avoid repeating past mistakes and replicate previous achievements. This process of introspection allows for the invaluable chance to learn from our experiences, shaping our decisions and actions as we move forward.

    And there is also a saying that the past is not a good predictor of the future. And if we are looking back to know what went wrong or right so we could have a better future, how could we be sure that the lessons we have learned could help us if our future is totally different from our past?

    Understanding the potential limitations of using the past as a sole predictor for the future is crucial in navigating the complexities of life. While the past can offer valuable insights and lessons, it is essential to acknowledge that the future is inherently uncertain and can deviate significantly from what we have experienced before.

    In seeking to apply the lessons learned from the past to an unknown future, it is important to approach the situation with adaptability and an open mindset. Instead of rigidly assuming that historical events will directly dictate the course of the future, we can use our insights and knowledge to inform our decisions and actions.

    The lessons gleaned from our experiences serve as guiding principles rather than definitive blueprints for the future. By embracing flexibility and a willingness to evolve our perspectives, we can harness the wisdom gained from the past to navigate the challenges and opportunities presented by a distinctly different future. It is through this balanced approach that we can strive to create positive change and growth, regardless of the variations between our past and future experiences.

    You are right about what you are thinking right now. Some of what we have learned could help us deal with our future. Like let us say having no savings this year because we have spent too much or our income is not enough to support our lifestyle so to resolve it, we find another job that pays more and start saving. Easy. Not quite.

    While in that example, the solution we are to take to prevent it from happening again may be good, the past is not a good predictor of the future. We could still end up without any savings at all because of other things we have not thought of like an emergency that may deplete our savings we are starting. Or going to the extreme, global crisis that raises the prices of goods and services increasing our cost of living resulting to small to zero savings, again.

    Does this mean that we should forget the past as whatever we do, there will be things out of our control that will prevent us from achieving our goals? Does this mean we should just live in the moment and just let the world take us where it would take us and go from there?

    Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe what we could do is to focus on what we think we should do to achieve what we want to achieve and be relentless about it. Maybe the learnings from the past are stepping stones that we could use to climb up but it won’t be enough to take us to the top of the mountain and we need a rope that we could use so we can keep climbing.

    The process of learning from our mistakes is essential for personal and professional growth. It requires a conscious effort to reflect on our actions, understand the root causes of our missteps, and commit to making positive changes. It’s not just about acknowledging the need to do things differently; it’s also about taking proactive steps to ensure progress and advancement.

    For instance, managing finances effectively involves more than just curbing excessive spending and striving for a higher income. It necessitates careful consideration of potential factors that could influence the achievement of our financial objectives. By anticipating and preparing for unforeseen circumstances, we can better safeguard our financial goals and enhance our overall financial well-being. Embracing this holistic approach enables us to not only avoid past mistakes but also to make informed decisions that propel us towards success.

    The end of the year provides us with a valuable opportunity for introspection and contemplation. As we express gratitude for the blessings we’ve received, it’s important to also acknowledge the mistakes and shortcomings we’ve encountered. Reflecting on our past actions allows us to gain insights into areas where we can improve and grow. This process of self-evaluation sets the stage for charting a course towards a more successful and fulfilling future.

    Looking ahead, it’s crucial to consider the possibilities that the future holds. By taking stock of our experiences and considering the potential outcomes, we can begin to lay the foundation for our aspirations in the coming year. Armed with this awareness, we can then begin crafting actionable plans that will guide us towards realizing our goals and aspirations. Embracing this thoughtful and strategic approach empowers us to greet the new year with renewed purpose and clarity, ready to embark on a journey of growth and achievement.

  • Narcissist or Humble | Boasting About Your Work

    Narcissist or Humble | Boasting About Your Work

    Narcissist or humble. Let your work speak for you, they say. People will notice eventually. While some say to advertise your work – network, market, and make others know it – we can still be proud. Up to what point?

    In the book “Leadership BS: Fixing Workplaces and Careers One Truth at a Time” by Jeffrey Pfeffer, he talks about some of the common qualities that we learn from reading leadership books, seminars, or podcasts that are, in real-world settings, not 100% helpful in traversing our everyday work.

    One of those is being modest. As a leader, any achievements we have are a result of the collective work of the people we lead. It is not the leader who was successful but the team that worked to produce results. In effect, the leader cannot claim success.

    He said that is what the leadership books, seminars, or podcasts tell us. He made an argument that successful leaders and organizations are doing otherwise.

    A leader that takes pride in his work, pushes the team to do what he wants, claims it as his, and makes the people in the organization know about it are the ones that are successful in achieving goals and climbing up the corporate ladder faster than anyone else.

    That is true as I have seen this happen.

    Or even not being in a leadership position, just being part of a team, being quiet about what you have accomplished against making it known to everyone, or just even your boss, could impact our progress in our career. We could end up stuck in our levels and wonder what we could have done differently to get promoted.

    Though, the other side of it, when you boast about your work, there is a tendency that others will take it negatively. Just thinking of yourself and your own could hurt relationships along the way and in the end, if you get that promotion, no one would be willing to follow you.

    In my experience, I attributed my promotion to the work that I did and to those who had led me to it. I had that desire to keep moving and my leaders gave me their hands to pull me up. And I have not been a person advertising what I achieved but every day, I just focused on what needs to be done.

    And being a leader, I do not have an accomplishment that I can say my own. Almost all of the work being done every day is done by my team. All of this work brought us to the stability we are looking for. No fire fighting. Just anticipate where that fire might come from and prevent it.

    In summary, I think that a leader should continue being humble. Without the people around him, that is willing to follow his vision, and think with him to find creative solutions, what could the leader accomplish?

    In the vast theater of life, we find ourselves playing dual roles: the narcissist and the humble. These personas, like opposing masks, shape our interactions, aspirations, and self-perception. But where lies the equilibrium? How much self-promotion is too much, and when does humility veer into self-effacement?

    The Narcissist: Spotlight and Shadows

    1. The Siren Call of Self-Promotion:
      • The narcissist thrives in the spotlight. They dance on the edge of self-obsession, their every move orchestrated for maximum visibility.
      • Social media platforms become their amphitheater—a place to flaunt achievements, curated lifestyles, and carefully filtered moments. Metrics—likes, followers, comments—fuel their ego.
    2. The Art of Bragging:
      • The narcissist masters the art of self-aggrandizement. They weave narratives that elevate their accomplishments, often embellishing reality.
      • Their conversations echo with “I” and “me,” and they relish recounting triumphs, no matter how trivial.
    3. The Perils of Vanity:
      • Yet, vanity has its pitfalls. The narcissist risks alienating others. Their relentless self-focus can drown out empathy, leaving relationships shallow.
      • Beneath the glittering facade lies fragility—the fear that without constant validation, they are insignificant.

    The Humble: Shadows and Starlight

    1. The Quiet Strength of Humility:
      • The humble walk a different path. They believe in letting their work speak for them, allowing deeds to resonate louder than words.
      • Their accomplishments are like hidden gems—unassuming yet precious.
    2. The Power of Authenticity:
      • The humble don’t seek applause; they seek impact. Their actions ripple through lives, leaving lasting impressions.
      • They deflect praise, attributing success to teamwork, luck, or circumstance. Their humility is magnetic.
    3. The Dangers of Diminishment:
      • But humility can morph into self-diminishment. The humble risk downplaying their worth, fading into the background.
      • Their reluctance to self-promote may hinder opportunities. After all, if a tree falls in the forest and no one hears, does it make a sound?

    The Harmonious Blend: A Symphony of Authenticity

    1. Know Your Audience:
      • Self-promotion needn’t be a megaphone; it can be a whisper. Tailor your message to the context and the ears that listen.
      • The narcissist can learn from the humble: sometimes, silence speaks louder than grand proclamations.
    2. Celebrate Quietly, Shine Brightly:
      • Celebrate victories, but not at the expense of others. The humble light candles rather than fireworks.
      • Share your journey—the struggles, the breakthroughs. Vulnerability connects hearts.
    3. Authenticity as the North Star:
      • Let authenticity guide you. Be proud of your work, but also acknowledge its collaborative roots.
      • Remember, the stars don’t shout—they simply shine.

    The Final Curtain Call

    So, up to what point? Perhaps the answer lies in balance. Be a narcissist when your passion demands it, and a humble observer when grace beckons. Let your work be your legacy, etched in deeds and whispered stories. And when the curtain falls, may it rise again—a testament to both your light and your shadows.

    In addition and final words, I’ve noticed in Japanese culture, well based on what I see in the movies, while honor is a big thing for them, they do not brag about who they are or what they have accomplished. This is the entire opposite of what Western culture is depicting in the movies that bragging and making people know of your accomplishments will get you places. Maybe it is time to follow the virtues of the East?